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    Despairing shared

    All you carers out there, give yourselves a break, what you are doing is the hardest job on earth. To feel like your loved one doesn't care, doesn't want you or whatever it is , is so nasty. I just took my husband to the care home this afternoon, and I couldn't even complete the mountain of...
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    First thoughts on visiting my wife in residential care

    Thanks for the response. I felt it might be best to stay away too... but it is not going to be easy. I do understand what you mean about staying on a tilted keel and making adaptations . Seems I seldom do anything that is normal, like walk out the door without prior planning... He follows me...
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    First thoughts on visiting my wife in residential care

    I am taking my husband to the care home tomorrow. I am torn up about it. I want a rest, it has been a very difficult time the last year or so. You said you went a week without a visit, and I thought that is what I should do also. I would like him to settle in before he sees me. Such a hard...
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    When is the right time for a nursing home?

    I am taking my husband to a care home tomorrow... I am torn up inside. I am so looking forward to a rest , but at the same time I could sit down and cry at the drop of a hat... I cooked his favorite meal tonight . planted a red flower in the planter that he loves... put up a mail box that he...
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    Feeling trapped

    I was a bit older than you when my husband started with his dementia... and the one thing I wish I had done was look into the help available to the care givers. I was such a hero???? I thought I could handle it . I even drove us to Texas with a fifth wheel trailer, that I could not back up...
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    Violent in public

    There is a training course called Non Violent Crisis Intervention.. I have taken it many times as I worked with mentally ill and mentally disabled adults . I know getting out and taking courses is very difficult when you are a care provider... but it shows ways to avoid being hurt without...
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    Constant walking......

    I take Zopiclone 7.5 … I usually only take a half one... I do think it might you leave me a little groggy , but it is the only way I can sleep . My husband has dementia and is quite a restless sleeper, so if I don't sleep he doesn't . I have worked with a lot of people who take meds for sleep...
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    Expert Q&A: loneliness and isolation - Weds 22 May, 3-4pm

    It is a very boring and lonely life … My OH? not sure what that is … it is my husband I care for.... he is not at all eager to go out anywhere... Not even to the yard... He used to love to be outdoors.... I have a bit of help … but they don't come when it is a stat holiday, like tomorrow. I...
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    Expert Q&A: loneliness and isolation - Weds 22 May, 3-4pm

    I am not sure where you are located.. I live in Mantioba Canada and here we can get respite care. A home care worker comes and stays with our dementia patient and we can go out for a short time .
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    Can someone explain this to me.?..............

    I find When my husband with dementia , gets stuck on a subject like that … I try to redirect him . It sometimes works … other times he keeps coming back to the subject