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    Care at home or EMI placement

    Hello bugsbunny4. You sould like you are needing a hug. I am so sorry your husband has not settled into the home but it is very early days as I am sure you have been told. Our hospital team have told me that even when staff take my husband out for a coffee it really disturbs him and that...
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    Thanks Jinx - still trying to get used to the idea of placing him in care and can't get over the guilt but I feel it is the right thing to do nevertheless. I hope your husband settles well in his new home and of course you are right - not your fault he has got dementia and I am sure, like me...
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    Thank you nannylondon for your reply to my post. Every time I read a few words of support it helps lessen the guilt. The trouble is that my husband does not seem so badly affected as the residents I have seen in the EMI homes. He is fully continent and very active, and wants to come home...
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    I understand exactly when you say you do not miss the way your husband is now and I also felt great relief when my husband was taken into hospital as every day felt a nightmare. I hope that my husband will be able to settle into a home and then I can just visit as you do. Yes your story did...
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    Great to have people to correspond with who understand. A pat on the back for you too for looking after your wife.
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    Thanks canary. I think I will have a hard time getting rid of the guilt but hopefully in time and also hopefully if he can settle into the right home, I will succeed.
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    Thank you Jinx for your kind words and I am sure in my heart that you are right. Still feel guilty though. I suppose I will get used to that in time.
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    Thank you beate for your comments. I burst into tears when I read your message. I guess because I felt that someone could understand my dilemma and not think that I was just an uncaring person by thinking about placing my husband into care. I just have to hope that my two children (42 and...
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    A big thank you I was so grateful to receive all five replies to my message. The first one made me burst into tears, I suppose with relief that I am not such an unfeeling person by thinking about putting my husband into care. Thank you all so much for your understanding and kind comments. I...
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    Care at home or EMI placement

    My husband first became ill last August. At first we all thought he was just depressed and he was being treated for depression and anxiety. But I started to feel it was maybe dementia when he began to get confused and forgetful and then imagining things were happening which were not. He was...