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    Help, Dad's dementia is going to kill him and me

    Oh Burford :( His behaviour is entirely NORMAL! However, that doesn't make you feel any less like a dreadful daughter does it? My nan had to go to respite after her ehat attack. She was medically fit, but mum was going away for 3 weeks and so didn't feel right for nan togo home. Nan cried...
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    New to all of this!

    It's practically impossible from my experience - I was a nurse and sometimes had several patients whp refused to take their tablets, often not being at all discreet about it :) The only answer is to keep trying and discuss with the GP. Covert administration is really frowned upon also...
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    seating solutions

    It is extremely important for being able to eat and drink, taking tablets (it's not good to try and take tabs when not sitting up), prevention of chest infections and, of course, social interaction. The 'regime' that your husband has sounds like an excellent one. In my experience, families...
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    Help, Dad's dementia is going to kill him and me

    That is really good. Turning up unannounced is the best way to go. You'll have a clearer picture from the assessment of what your dad needs from a home. My advice if you can is to look at as many as you can. Afterall you wouldn't look at one or two houses if you were thinking of moving. Good...
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    Nursing Home Staffing Levels

    Lotti Staffing levels are set by the registering body. They set minimum levels if I recall correctly and nothing has changed from when I was last a manager. It is based on home size and layout etc. However, staffing levels are usually maintained at a minimum (cost :rolleyes: ) and in...
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    Not sure which way to turn next

    I could've written some of that :( It's my nan who is suffering, but she thinks she's OK. It's very frustrating and resultied in me being very upset last week and luckily finding this place. I don't think there are any quick answers. My nan agreed to help am and pm, but only because she was in...
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    Caring... the price I'm paying

    Sorry didn't know there was another meaning. Although getting on your bike might help ;) I assume you mean the bike training, if not that couild sound terribly rude :eek: You BP will soon come down. I'll take some if you like; mine's too low (90/50), so could do with a boost :D
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    Feeling really horrible today

    I'm sorry you're having a tough start to the day :( I'm no use on how to fix the light I'm afraid. Is there a local odd job man who can help? What sort of mower is it? I can never start our old petrol one. It had to be serviced each year to get it to perform. I wish I could think of...
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    New to all of this!

    Welcome I'm new too. My nan is waiting for an assessment, but my Father in law was dx with Alzheimers recently ands given Aricept. He doen't live near us, so we don't see him daily, but my mother in law feels he's 'better' with it and my husband saw his dad at the weekend and said he was doing...
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    seating solutions

    By hospital bed do you mean a bed / mattress to prevent pressure ulcers (bed sores) because of her mobility? If your mum is immobile she should have a pressure relieving mattress. You can also get, and she should have, a pressure relieving cushion. My feeling is that if your mum can't move...
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    Help, Dad's dementia is going to kill him and me

    Also Unless systems have changed, part of the SW assessment will come from the nurses, drs etc at the hosp, and can be done quite quickly, as it's in their interests to do so. The slow bit used to be (and agian I've been out of it for 3 yrs so may be wrong) was the going to panel to secure funding.
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    Help, Dad's dementia is going to kill him and me

    Good Luck Visiting the homes at short notice is a fab idea. You'll get a proper feel for the place. The homes will (or they should) do a full and proper assessment. Are you bed blocking - I suppose the hospital would call it that, but the reality is that you can't move the red tape any...
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    Caring... the price I'm paying

    I'm sorry you're not doing so well yourself:( Have you told your GP that the ADs give you these side effects? You need to as not one type suits all and there are many out ther to try. Has the GP suggested any other treatment other than Ads? I have no personal experience, but know of iothers...
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    Hello, I'm new and really a bit sad

    Thanks Suze, At first mum was away and I visited every day twice a day so she got her tablets as they weren't in a nomad so carers could only 'prompt'. Mum and I have now started to split duties, which has helped. I totally agree that it's those closest who sometimes take the brunt.
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    Hello, I'm new and really a bit sad

    Lynn, Firstly, sorry you've had a bad weekend. It's so hard when you can't forget what happened, but they have and are totally oblivious. I agree with you about the shopping. She has only just expressed a wish to go with me again since her heart attack. I used to take her each week before...
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    Help, Dad's dementia is going to kill him and me

    Has the SW done an assessment? She / he ought to get one in place. Stick by your guns and say you don't want yourt dad moved from pillar to post. He should have a proper assessment of his needs and then decide where to move him. Moving him unecessarily will only cause more confusion and upset...
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    Help, Dad's dementia is going to kill him and me

    Sorry I haven't read right back, but as an ex nurse / NH Manager, albeit nearly 3 yrs ago now, I'm happy to offer some advice. You have every choice of where your father goes and do not be bullied by SS or the ward 'needing the bed'. I absolutely hate shared rooms. My home had 2 and I would only...
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    Hello, I'm new and really a bit sad

    Sam Iam Thanks. My nan was lovely, gentle and never a bad word, but recently became the nan off Catherine Tate (if you're familiar). I must admit this was funny. Her neighbour wanted the number of my nan's friend in order to tell her that nan was home from hospital as the friend would like to...
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    Displacing people with dementia - what can be done?

    Angela if she's in a home that specialises in dementia then I have to say her behaviour is par for the course. I know how easy it is for homes to see a self funding person and want to grab their hand off and their cash of course :rolleyes: The homes should be doing an assessment of your...
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    Hello, I'm new to the forum

    Hello, black lab (we have one of those) When my nan went in to hospital I found over £1000 hidden in her home. She insisted on 'drawing' her pension each week and then just stashed it around the place. She too forgot where it was because she once told me she'd been burgled as money had gone...