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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    That’s unbelievable @Susan11 Why is there always adverts saying if you notice your loved one having forgetful moments report it right away to your GP. You do and no one listens or takes you seriously. The earlier they get the help the better...more importantly we need the help as it is us who...
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    Selfish

    Hi @Guzelle Hearing your words “he just didn’t care” That’s the main thing I have with my husband. I have just had an operation on my foot and he just doesn’t care about me. He has let me struggle without helping me since he brought me home from hospital. He’s so cold. Also, he never bothers...
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    Selfish

    Hi @Rosettastone57 reading your reply makes me think maybe there were signs years before especially personality and decision making and I just didn’t pick up on it. The first I noticed was forgetting conversations and plans we had made. He would call me a liar, it was lucky he had also discussed...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    I know @Ruth1974 but if my husband gets a diagnosis at least it can’t be denied anymore, his family will have to know and I won’t have to cope alone. It will be me who has to take it all on but at least other people will know instead of just me. Sending love and hugs xxx
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    Selfish

    I’m definitely going to mention the rages when we see our GP again. I couldn’t speak to anyone he works with because if he found out my life would not be worth living. What sort of paranoia did he show? My husband is always accusing me and my daughter of plotting against him. If I ring him...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    I have just got to try and realise I can’t expect anything from him as he is unable to cope. The rage and anger is when he becomes overwhelmed. It’s lonely though. Love and hugs xxx
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    Selfish

    I’m so glad I found this thread @Lawson58 @canary @Thethirdmrsc @hillyjay My husband still hasn’t been diagnosed because he fooled the Doctor. Our GP knows he had a problem, the Neuropsychological testing showed major problems and his MRI showed atrophy but because he blagged the Doctor into...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Thank you again dancer12, I am definitely going to tell our GP about the anger and rage, it is just so out of proportion and I have told my husband it is not normal and totally unacceptable. I’ll keep you posted. For now we will both carry on. Thinking of you, sending love and hugs xxx
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Hi again dancer12, Your words rang in my head last night. Like you now I am the sick one, I have got a mental illness, there is nothing wrong with him or his behaviour it’s all me. Am I imagining it all?!!!
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    I spoke to the Psychologist today but she said she couldn’t do anything as he hasn’t been diagnosed. She gave me a number for Relate. I have had to come back home because I was finding it difficult to recover from my surgery with no downstairs toilet and sleeping arrangements. I’m heartbroken...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    All I do is pray too, pray and pray more. I hope you have someone you can turn to. I have had to come and stay in my daughter’s it got so bad last night. I had a foot operation on Friday so I need the help and he just resents me. He gets so angry I felt scared and so vulnerable needing help...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Thank you so much for your reply dancer12. It is so hard for me at the moment, no diagnosis but his behaviour is becoming out of control. I’m actually afraid to go near him, he gets so angry he scares me. His MRI scan didn’t show atrophy that related to FTD or Alzheimer’s it was Global Cortical...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Thankyou canary, It was as comforting to hear about your experiences. Like you I get accused of trying to control him which makes me reluctant to tell him or the doctor what he is doing. I don’t want him to be diagnosed because of what I say I would be blamed forever. I get the blame for...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Thank you dancer12, My husband actually let me go to see the GP with him yesterday and our GP has really took it seriously. He must have been in touch with the Memory Clinic and the Doctor will see him again when he has any more changes. The only problem is they will have to be on my say so. How...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Hi Dancer12, Thank you for your reply. It’s so hard isn’t it when they are nice to you again because that is the person you love? Sometimes I think it would be easier if he was horrible all the time and then I wouldn’t feel guilty if I left him. It’s just I see the vulnerability come through...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Thank you for your reply I am at the end of my tether. All I do is care and worry about him and all I get is abuse. He hasn’t been diagnosed so I don’t know whether it is him or the illness. I want to run away.
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Thank you so much for your reply, I worry so much about him but he becomes so nasty to me. I get abused for caring about him. He has said such nasty things to me and then ignores me for days. I feel like running away.
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    I just feel so frustrated because I had appointments on my own as well with the psychologist and completed questionnaires regarding changes in my husband over the last 10 years which I probably was too kind. However he still scored really low. I was mortified when the Doctor brought this up in...
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    Still no diagnosis after 3 years!!!

    Where do I go from here? I finally got my husband referred to a Memory Clinic after 3 years. He seen the Doctor and had many sessions of testing with a psychologist which showed major problems. The MRI showed Global Cortical Atrophy with a score of 2. My husband managed to blag the Doctor into...
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    How Does Love Turn Into Hate/Dislike So Fast

    I know exactly how you feel. I love my husband so much but I constantly feel hurt because he is so cold and can be so nasty and hateful to me. He looks ok, walks ok and talks ok just like your husband. He still drives and goes to work which is a joke ‍♀️ It’s like a child going to school. I have...