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    Mum's poem

    A beautiful poem - I lost my dear mum on 14 December and feel your poem is so very true. I like to think that Mum is now away from the demons of Alzheimers. Thank you for posting it.
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    What next?

    Thank you so much for your comforting words regarding the loss of my Mum. I wish others would be as compassionate. I found out on Friday that my boss is intending to change my contract from 52 weeks per year, 27 hours per week to 41 weeks per year, 37 hours per week. I have worked at the...
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    My dear Mum

    Thank you so much for your comforting words regarding the loss of my Mum. I wish others would be as compassionate. I found out on Friday that my boss is intending to change my contract from 52 weeks per year, 27 hours per week to 41 weeks per year, 37 hours per week. I have worked at the...
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    My dear Mum

    My dearest Mum lost her battle with Alzheimers on 14 December - she was 92 years old. I coped extremely well, I thought. It was what she wanted, she had really had enough and told me many times she wanted to be with her Mum and Dad. We couldn't have the funeral until 3 January and I was...
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    Mum Is Deteriorating Still Swallowing But Getting Delayed

    My thoughts are with you at this difficult time. I lost my Mum on 14 December. Keep strong.
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    My dear Mum is now at peace

    After 4 days of sitting with Mum talking to her, playing her favourite music and just being there, she passed away on Saturday, 14 December. I was not with her, I have to take comfort from believing that this was what she wanted. She will no longer be suffering the torture of Alzheimers...
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    My Mum

    I visited Mum this morning and she was on bed rest. The carer said maybe my brother who lives away should visit Mum as she isn't well,but we won't know what it is until we get the blood results next Monday. I spent the morning just talking to her and holding her hand. I just want to be with...
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    When is the end, not really the end?

    I am in the same position and can really sympathise with you. I am finding it very difficult to cope with the roller coaster of emotions, just waiting for the phone to ring, wanting to be with Mum and yet when I am there I find it so upsetting - I can't bear to see her suffering this way...
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    What's right?

    An emotional roller coaster! My Mum's health declined suddenly 2 1/2 weeks ago. She is in a CH and they thought she had a urine infection. The Doctor can find no evidence of this but put her on anti-biotics. She was struggling to eat and drink, sleeping all the time and was very confused and...
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    Risk Assessment

    Visited Mum today in CH and was asked to sign a Risk Assessment. Mum is convinced that one of the male carers is going to get her put in jail and is hiding jewellery in her room. This has been going on for about 6 weeks but she never liked him before that. Everytime I visit I have to reassure...
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    Bad day - feeling helpless!

    Had phone call from SiL last night saying mum was really, really low. Everytime i have visited over the last 3 weeks she has been upset - saying she is going to be arrested for stealing - she thinks the home are setting her up. Each visit I reassure her that the clothes in her wardrobe do...
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    Still here...

    I know how you feel, I know I have done the right thing too and did feel better once Mum went in CH, but knowing she isn't happy there (I don't think she will be happy anywhere!) makes me feel very sad, and when she tells me she wishes she could die my heart breaks
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    mothers day wishes

    Mother's Day Thinking of all of you who either no longer have your Mum with you or if she doesn't know you. We are not at that stage yet - I know it will come one day. Took Mum out for lunch with my family and my brother and his wife - she had a thoroughly lovely time and then came back...
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    New to Forum and Dementia

    Have a wonderful holiday both of you.
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    holiday insurance

    I wonder if anyone can give me any advice on holiday insurance. My Mum is 91 years of age and has dementia and is in a CH. My husband has booked a "holiday of a lifetime" for us in August. the doctor also suspects she may have bowel cancer but we have opted not to have any tests as at her...
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    A few words on stress

    Great post, Jay Really made me smile - I too will read again and again. I can so relate to it. AnneD
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    My poor Mam.

    Callie - I hope today will be a better day for you. There is nothing I can say except that I am thinking of you and your sister and sending hugs. We have all had "bad" days - and they are very difficult to deal with. When i visited my Mum on Thursday - she was almost happy (the first...
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    Mom

    Thinking of you and your family at this very difficult time, Nancy. The illness is truly dreadful - no-one deserves to suffer like this. I hope your Mum soon finds peace. AnneD
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    Need a virtual hug...

    Thinking of you and sending BIG hugs - we all know what you are going through.
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    How much more?

    Hi Stressed51 I wish i could win the lottery too - at least I could tell her what to do with her job. Interestingly, my previous boss was a male and he was much more understanding. From the beginning of June until Mum went into a CH on my birthday at the end of July I was visiting her every...