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    Just feeling so sad

    Thank you for your replies and it helps to know I'm not the only one to feel this way :(
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    Just feeling so sad

    hi, I don't feel I can say this out loud to anyone I know but I feel so confused. I visit my mum in the care home and I know she still knows me and always looks very pleased to see me. We have a chat and I just try to make sure I'm saying yes and no in the right places dependent on how she...
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    Time for a care home but how do we do this?

    Thank you for all your kind comments, it's given us some ideas on where to start! There is no immediate rush for this so we can have a good look round, it's just a scary process and we haven't spoken to our mum about this as we know she will refuse to go so that part is also difficult as to know...
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    Time for a care home but how do we do this?

    My brother and I have decided that we feel the time has come for our mum to go into a care home. Not an easy decision but neccesary. :( Trouble is we don't know what to do next - do we go looking at homes, do we call social services? Don't imagine that mum will get any financial help but again i...
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    When do i know mum needs to go into care home?

    Thanks for your replies, i think we will need to start looking around and see what's available for her for when the time arrives. It's such a hard decision and not one i'm looking forward to making :(
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    When do i know mum needs to go into care home?

    Hi my mum lives at home on her own with a lot of help from my brother and myself. She goes to a day centre 3 times a week (a life line!), has carers who come into give her breakfast and tea every day and meals on wheels on the days she's at home. She's very mobile and can get herself up, dressed...
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    mum not washimg!

    Hi my mum still lives at home alone with a lot of help from my brother and I. Physically she is still quite good and doesn't need any help with dressing, washing etc. We have carers going in twice a day to give her breakfast and tea with meals on wheels going in at lunch time. She likes to think...
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    Just wanted to talk to others who understand.

    Hello, my mum has been diagnosed with Alzheimers for about 3 years now, still lives alone, she has meals on wheels at lunch time and we have just started having a carer go in at tea time to give her some tea. In some ways she isn't too bad - she takes the dog for a (short!) walk every day, goes...
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    finance

    I can assure you my mum's care will not be comprised by my brother or me trying to save her money for us later.
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    finance

    Sorry if people are thinking they way they are - we are not a rich family by any means just a normal working class family. this money my mum has is from when my grandparents died both my parents had a little money left to them and this has been saved in ISA's, my dad passed away 3 years ago so...
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    finance

    my mum has Alzheimer but is ok at home alone at the moment. my brother and I are worried about the future and care home prices as she has over £50, 000 in the bank . if she gave us some can through council find out and say it was done to avoid payment and can they find out about different...
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    New to this and just wanting a little moral support i suppose

    the origional nurse who did her test is very good and calls me to let me know of any problem they may have noticed or to update me on anything they are thinking of doing, i also call her to let her know of any concerns we may have. I think we are quite lucky to have this but not sure how ling it...
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    New to this and just wanting a little moral support i suppose

    It wasn't just that she couldn't smell i think it was also the lack of understanding when the nurse was trying to explain as well. I'm not sure exactly why the nurse is going in, i think it's because they feel my mum is lonely and a bit depressed (we lost my dad after he'd been ill for a couple...
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    New to this and just wanting a little moral support i suppose

    Hi as the title says I'm new to all this. My mum is about to be diagnosed ( April 18th we see a consultant) with some type of dementia. Origionaly my brother went to my mum's dr before Christmas to talk to him about mum and the Dr then got my mum in by saying she needed to come in for 'routine'...