I don't fit into any of the groups mentioned this is the closest. My father has Alzhimers and he lives with my mother. It is my mother that drives us crazy and we have a family dispute as to whether my father can or cannot remember things.
I have realized that dementia is not just about memory loss as there are times where he will remember things or remember several different things and string them together and create a new event. Emotion helps memory.
For instance the consultant was rude to him and he remembers that.
But he went outside and picked blackberries and 5 minutes later he had forgotten about it. He didn't remember my sisters visit at all.
So I had a bit of words with mum last night. She said dad was going outside to smoke every 15 minutes. When she confronted him he said he'd smoke as much as he wanted to.
I do not believe he knew how often he was smoking but my mum is certain that "he knows"
We have had this from her from the start and she will not do things that will help. It took months to get her to write on a white board to help him for example.
So what is the likelihood of him really knowing? And how best to deal with mum in these situations.
I have realized that dementia is not just about memory loss as there are times where he will remember things or remember several different things and string them together and create a new event. Emotion helps memory.
For instance the consultant was rude to him and he remembers that.
But he went outside and picked blackberries and 5 minutes later he had forgotten about it. He didn't remember my sisters visit at all.
So I had a bit of words with mum last night. She said dad was going outside to smoke every 15 minutes. When she confronted him he said he'd smoke as much as he wanted to.
I do not believe he knew how often he was smoking but my mum is certain that "he knows"
We have had this from her from the start and she will not do things that will help. It took months to get her to write on a white board to help him for example.
So what is the likelihood of him really knowing? And how best to deal with mum in these situations.