Thank you so much Loo. xx
At the meeting addressing my complaint about Dhiren`s and my distressing treatment when he had pneumonia, I was invited to attend and speak at the Dementia Champions meeting at the hospital.
The meeting was today.
I was greeted warmly by one nurse in charge of dementia training at the hospital and introduced to another nurse who was in charge of dementia training at the three main hospitals in the area.
Both expressed their shock regarding our experience and declared it should never have happened.
There is a policy in place so every patient admitted with dementia is seen by the dementia nurse , but in our case it hadn`t happened.
No one knows why.
It is possible the dementia nurse might have been on leave .
No one has checked to see if that was so.
I was asked to tell my story , without pulling punches, to help ensure this would never happen again.
Between fifteen and twenty people were expected to attend in the small meeting room, but more and more kept coming, extra chairs were brought in and the room was full to capacity.
I imagine there were between thirty and thirty-five people in the room.
I told our story and then spoke about the communication difficulties experienced by people in the later stages of dementia. I expressed, with everything I have, the importance of listening to carers, both family members and care home carers, particularly when those with dementia are unable to speak for themselves and make their needs known.
I noticed one of the nurses had a copy of the AS publication `This is me`
I said I had completed one for Dhiren and she asked if it had been clipped to the foot of the bed.
No. It had been placed in a file and taken away.
She was annoyed.
When I finished, the dementia nurse was quite emotional as were several others. She said everyone knew the story but it made a much bigger impact hearing about it in my own words.
Questions were invited and a discussion followed.
I felt it was constructive and those attending seemed to feel the same. They were as attentive as I could have wished.
When the discussion was over the dementia nurses discussed topics for future training.
I was pleased when two topics were suggested as an outcome of my talk. They are the Different Forms of Dementia and The Effect of Infections on People with Dementia.
The nurse in charge of area training has asked for more TP Flyers which I will take in next week.
I have been invited to attend future dementia awareness gatherings.
I `m so pleased such a traumatic and distressing episode has developed into a productive relationship and it seems there will be opportunities to develop it further.