Apologies to all for my post as I know a lot of us are in the same position and feel as I do but can anyway tell me how to cope with visiting and not come away in tears? Although Fred seemed to have settled in fairly well, I am beginning to think he is far more aware than we originally thought. He has slept through my last 4 visits but I am not sure whether it is genuine or he just doesn't want to see me and fakes it. He did wake today but was very irritable with me and extremely rude. When one of the other residents told him that he shouldn't speak to me like that, he said, quite lucidly, that they didn't know what I had done to him and that he really hated me. Is that it from now on? Will he feel like this until he goes (providing I don't go first, of course) or is this a phase that will pass? He broke down in tears at one point and said he couldn't stand it anymore. My heart aches for him and I long to bring him home but the staff say that even they are finding it difficult to manage him these days so how could I cope. Can't bear the thought of him hating me for the rest of his life, particularly as he has been such a loving husband. Sorry for the whinge. Perhaps it will be better next time.
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Sent from my GT-N5110