It is a lovely photo, a handsome fella and from what I can remember from a photo you posted of yourself yonkies ago, you take after your Dad.
Your dad looks absolutely smashing, KM. What a lovely gentle, smiley person he looks. I'm glad you found such a lovely photo.
I have a favourite photo of my dad, it's just a snap, a perfectly ordinary snap, but it's my very favourite, he's about 40ish and looks so lovely, and daddish. Just how I still think of him in my mind, and he's now 76! I know it's perhaps a little morbid, but when the time comes, a long way in the future, I hope, that will be the photo I will use.
For my mam, my favourite is one that was taken on her wedding day. She is just so, so beautiful, and perfect, and sparkly, and happy and in love. It's just gorgeous.
I hope all goes well at your dad's funeral. I love the songs/music you've chosen and I like the idea of the guests wearing something yellow - perhaps even their own yellow buttonhole, or a yellow ribbon or scarf, or tie for the gents, what a good idea! I think your dad would like that.
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Everyone has their own ways KM.
Your mum is a depressive and her behaviour is true to form.
You are obviously making sure you do the very best for your dad and that seems true to form too.
I do hope all goes well. You are certainly planning everything down to the last detail. Your dad would be proud of you, I`m sure.
KM, is there someone who can be a shepherd for Mum during the day of the funeral? I think that, although she is " The Widow" you have been the carer, the daughter, and now the bereaved. I think that, having done all the planning, you need to be able to say Goodbye to your Dad's body ( his spirit will always be there for you) and not just being obliged to spend the time being Mum's comfort blanket. Yes that sounds hard, but Sylvia hit the nail on the head when she said Mum is depressive, I also think that she is more of a taker than a giver perhaps she does it unconciously ( me..( unkindly) I'm not sure), and because you will always give...she will always take.
Afterwards...when she says " I wish..." tell her Dad wanted things like this...simple and straightforward. I'm sure this is true, you couldn't have planned it without the input his life and times has given you.
It's a blessing that she isn't broken hearted with grief.
I'm not sure that she isn't
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I will be thinking of you tomorrow and hoping it all goes just as you want it to and as your father would have wanted.
I haven't posted here for a number of reasons but I have read of all your preparations and it has brought my own for Dave back to the forefront of my mind.
For me, unlike your mother, everything just happened too quickly.
There was something having to be organised every day or so it seemed and decisions having to be made there and then, when I needed more time to mull things over more to make sure it was right.
Then, it was all over and the feeling was that it had all happened too quickly.
Although different, in the same way that I hope the funeral planned for Dave was what he would have wanted, I am sure that that which you have planned for your father is just what he would have wanted.
As you have so aptly said, it is the last thing we can do for someone, to say farewell in the very best way we can and that is just what you are doing.
all the very best for tomorrow. xxx