Hello,
I've been coming on this website and reading posts for some time now and have found it so helpful to read about and learn from other people's experiences. I have tried to follow some of the advice given to people in similar situations and have got stuck so am hoping that I might be able to get some (much appreciated) help myself.
Over the past two-three years my family and I have become increasingly concerned about my Grandad in relation to his deteriorating memory and the impact this is having on him and my Gran.
Following advice I have read to others on this forum we have tried a few things e.g. made a detailed and specific list of concerns and wrote to Grandad's GP, we have visited the GP without Grandad to share the family's concerns, we encouraged Gran to try to broach the subject with him gently (which she did but he became very angry and brought up unrelated historic problems in their relationship so this just led to distress all round).
Eventually and by coincidence my Grandad had some physical health symptoms that needed a GP visit. We had hoped that this would be an opportunity for the GP to discuss memory with Grandad. Unfortunately, the GP came back to us to say that he could not initiate a conversation about memory and that my Grandad would need to instigate this himself or be accompanied into the clinic room by a relative who could raise their concerns. He has never been accompanied into the GP or other appointments so has refused this when my Gran has suggested (in relation to his other health problems).
We are now feeling quite stuck and would appreciate any advice/ideas for us to reflect on.
With thanks in anticipation,
Ali
I've been coming on this website and reading posts for some time now and have found it so helpful to read about and learn from other people's experiences. I have tried to follow some of the advice given to people in similar situations and have got stuck so am hoping that I might be able to get some (much appreciated) help myself.
Over the past two-three years my family and I have become increasingly concerned about my Grandad in relation to his deteriorating memory and the impact this is having on him and my Gran.
Following advice I have read to others on this forum we have tried a few things e.g. made a detailed and specific list of concerns and wrote to Grandad's GP, we have visited the GP without Grandad to share the family's concerns, we encouraged Gran to try to broach the subject with him gently (which she did but he became very angry and brought up unrelated historic problems in their relationship so this just led to distress all round).
Eventually and by coincidence my Grandad had some physical health symptoms that needed a GP visit. We had hoped that this would be an opportunity for the GP to discuss memory with Grandad. Unfortunately, the GP came back to us to say that he could not initiate a conversation about memory and that my Grandad would need to instigate this himself or be accompanied into the clinic room by a relative who could raise their concerns. He has never been accompanied into the GP or other appointments so has refused this when my Gran has suggested (in relation to his other health problems).
We are now feeling quite stuck and would appreciate any advice/ideas for us to reflect on.
With thanks in anticipation,
Ali