My husband died in February after many years of dementia , he was in a specialist nursing home for 5 years. There were many very traumatic times but I have been coping not too badly since then and trying to keep busy. However , recently my mum has had various health issues ( not dementia) and I have taken her to Gps appointments etc which I have found difficult as it brings back the memories of dealing with my husbands illness and many medical consultations. Luckily I am not an only child , I have a brother & sister , but today my mum asked me to take her to a hospital appointment ....I said that I would , but when i put the phone down i just collapsed in tears at the thought of having to go into a hospital.... I feel so raw from my husbands death this year and don't feel I'd even be safe to drive my mum to her appointment. I can't understand why this has affected me so badly but although of course the memories are still so fresh of his illness and decline , it is as if a wound has been reopened ....I haven't told Mum how I
feel as i don't want to upset her.
Am I being really selfish here? I dont know who else to talk to.
feel as i don't want to upset her.
Am I being really selfish here? I dont know who else to talk to.