Hi, I'm ikky
This is the first time I've used this or any other forum and I'm not really sure that what I am about to write is what is acceptable but here goes.
My husband has frontotemporal dementia. He's had this problem for around 9 years now but it was only diagnosed this year. I understand that this is because it is a rare form and even some health professionals don't know about it. I am his sole carer and am finding his behaviour very difficult to cope with. He has no empathy which always makes him appear uncaring and this is very difficult to cope with. Last week I just could not cope anymore and he went for respite for the first time. I was so upset yet he just seemed to relish sitting, reading his book and being waited upon. He has been unpleasant since he got back 4 days ago, I've read enough to know that this may happen but it doesn't make it any easier I feel so bad about the way I am feeling and don't know how to handle things. I try to keep him doing things to give him a better quality of life and he throws them back in my face by saying I'm pushing and he wont go, then he wants to "be with me and do things together" How do you cope with this. I get fed up with people telling me "it's my choice" I don't find it helpful, it's a vicious circle. Is anyone reading this who has felt the same? what did you do, please help
This is the first time I've used this or any other forum and I'm not really sure that what I am about to write is what is acceptable but here goes.
My husband has frontotemporal dementia. He's had this problem for around 9 years now but it was only diagnosed this year. I understand that this is because it is a rare form and even some health professionals don't know about it. I am his sole carer and am finding his behaviour very difficult to cope with. He has no empathy which always makes him appear uncaring and this is very difficult to cope with. Last week I just could not cope anymore and he went for respite for the first time. I was so upset yet he just seemed to relish sitting, reading his book and being waited upon. He has been unpleasant since he got back 4 days ago, I've read enough to know that this may happen but it doesn't make it any easier I feel so bad about the way I am feeling and don't know how to handle things. I try to keep him doing things to give him a better quality of life and he throws them back in my face by saying I'm pushing and he wont go, then he wants to "be with me and do things together" How do you cope with this. I get fed up with people telling me "it's my choice" I don't find it helpful, it's a vicious circle. Is anyone reading this who has felt the same? what did you do, please help