My mum has been in a nursing home for over three years, she had mild dementia but has gotten a lot worse over the last few months and hardly speaks to either myself or my sister. She also has mobility problems so rarely leaves her room and has very bad incontinence problems so has to wear pads. My mum seems to be left to her own devices most of the day, she is taking off her pads even when they are not wet and therefore is always running out of them and she is wetting her clothes very frequently and it often means she doesn't have any pants to enable her to put another pad on so wets the floor. We raised the shortage of pads with the manager but she said they only allow four pads a day and because mum takes dry ones off they won't increase it. I've visited several times to find mum sat in her own wee with no clothes to put on and the staff don't or don't want to notice this fact. I know she gets aggressive and won't let staff help her sometimes so they just leave her, she has even got funny with me trying to help her but does let me eventually. Also when I visit her door is wide open and sometimes she isn't dressed and anyone can see her sat in her chair when they are passing so I feel she has lost her privacy and dignity and I think she is also frustrated by this. I know the staff do their best but there are few of them and I don't think they know what to do. I asked if we could get mums dementia assessed again to see how far she has deteriorated and the dr finally has agreed to it but we are still waiting. I think she needs to go into a more specialised dementia home but my sister isn't sure. I'm very upset by all this and feel very depressed myself and stressed. Can anyone suggest any guidance as I'm at my wits end.