Hi
Just wondered if anyone can shed any light on this.
My mum is late stage dementia in a care home which our family are very happy with. The staff are caring and she is always clean and well presented. Dad visits 5 days a week and my sister and I visit every week too.
My Auntie (mum's sister) visits twice a week and we are estranged from her. Mum and her sister were not close.
Anyway, a week or so ago, she complained to staff mum wasn't wearing a skirt and it was a hot day (not something we had a problem with as mum feels the cold).
Then yesterday she and my cousin went in there (mum is always seen in the lounge area). My cousin entered my mum's bedroom (which is normally locked) and got a blouse, then they took her to the bathroom and got her changed.
The staff told Dad today as they weren't comfortable with it either. They did not ask staff or explain why there were doing it as far as I know.
So my question is, does dad as the next of kin have the right to say staff must refuse them entry into mum's room and that they must not dress her. Mum was very private and would have hated them undressing her and changing her clothes. Surely this could be a health and safety issue too since they don't work in the home?
We are going to talk to the care home manager tomorrow but don't want this to escalate into something huge as it wouldn't be nice for the home being in the middle of it.... since we suspect this is all about the family feud, not mum's welfare.
how would you handle it? Do we legally have the right to stop them doing this? Common sense says surely we do as we know what is best for mum and this is an invasion of her privacy in my book.
thanks in advance.
J
Just wondered if anyone can shed any light on this.
My mum is late stage dementia in a care home which our family are very happy with. The staff are caring and she is always clean and well presented. Dad visits 5 days a week and my sister and I visit every week too.
My Auntie (mum's sister) visits twice a week and we are estranged from her. Mum and her sister were not close.
Anyway, a week or so ago, she complained to staff mum wasn't wearing a skirt and it was a hot day (not something we had a problem with as mum feels the cold).
Then yesterday she and my cousin went in there (mum is always seen in the lounge area). My cousin entered my mum's bedroom (which is normally locked) and got a blouse, then they took her to the bathroom and got her changed.
The staff told Dad today as they weren't comfortable with it either. They did not ask staff or explain why there were doing it as far as I know.
So my question is, does dad as the next of kin have the right to say staff must refuse them entry into mum's room and that they must not dress her. Mum was very private and would have hated them undressing her and changing her clothes. Surely this could be a health and safety issue too since they don't work in the home?
We are going to talk to the care home manager tomorrow but don't want this to escalate into something huge as it wouldn't be nice for the home being in the middle of it.... since we suspect this is all about the family feud, not mum's welfare.
how would you handle it? Do we legally have the right to stop them doing this? Common sense says surely we do as we know what is best for mum and this is an invasion of her privacy in my book.
thanks in advance.
J