Still Numb After 5 months

Lottie40

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Nov 5, 2013
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Hi,
It's been 5 months since my Mum passed and I can't even cry.I just feel numb and the whole experience of caring for her ,seeing to her needs and being with her as she passed feels surreal .If I have to tell anyone it feels like I'm talking about somebody else's Mum .i just keep thinking she is coming back (not even in a longing or yearning way) more like ok Mum you can come back now .its like this is all temporary ,some kind of phase or stage .Sorry if Im not explaining myself well .Ive been supporting my Dad and brother and helping them as much as possible .
I find myself wanting to talk to an Alzheimers expert to ask them questions like,How can somebody deteriorate so quickly and How can the Alzheimers progress so rapidly?Does it progress this rapidly in other folk?

Sorry if I'm not making much sense here .

Thankyou for reading .

Lottie x
 

Bronwen

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Jan 8, 2010
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I lost my parents within 8 months of one another, my mum was in a nursing home with dementia and to watch my dad coping with that was heartbreaking, so when he died 8 months later, I was relieved as I felt they were together again.

But how I miss them, especially now my husband has died, after all they have always been in my life and I could talk to mum about everything...I know how you feel about not believing it is real, I cant believe they are gone and I understand you are feeling numb.

take care
Bronwen
 

turbo

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Aug 1, 2007
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Hi,
It's been 5 months since my Mum passed and I can't even cry.I just feel numb and the whole experience of caring for her ,seeing to her needs and being with her as she passed feels surreal .If I have to tell anyone it feels like I'm talking about somebody else's Mum .i just keep thinking she is coming back (not even in a longing or yearning way) more like ok Mum you can come back now .its like this is all temporary ,some kind of phase or stage .Sorry if Im not explaining myself well .Ive been supporting my Dad and brother and helping them as much as possible .
I find myself wanting to talk to an Alzheimers expert to ask them questions like,How can somebody deteriorate so quickly and How can the Alzheimers progress so rapidly?Does it progress this rapidly in other folk?

Sorry if I'm not making much sense here .

Thankyou for reading .

Lottie x

Hello Lottie,
My mum died six months ago, having suffered from dementia for 10 years.
I am similar to you, I haven't cried yet and feel completely numb. You have said some of the things I feel.

turbo
 

annie irma

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Apr 3, 2014
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Hi Lottie,
Your post really hit home. Our Mum is currently living in a care home but the speed that her Lewy Body dementia has taken her away from us is startling. It feels like one minute she was normal Mum, bit unsteady on her feet but okay. Then the next she spiralled into a paranoid, anxious lady that we can no longer comfort. Some people have told me I'm lucky it's been so quick! I just feel stunned!
Keep talking and sharing it will help.
Take care.
Annette
 

rajahh

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Aug 29, 2008
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I am a member of a bereavement site I joined when my daughter and grand daughter died. Many members find the 5 month mark a very difficult time.

Don't know why but numerous members find this.

I actually joined the site at 5 months so I was obviously looking for some thing to help
 

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