Mum has carers in 3 times a day. The morning and lunchtime carer is fantastic, the evening one isn't, she does Mum's meal OK (half of which I've already done for her before she turns up) but she doesn't talk to Mum at all. However, for the past couple of months Mum's eating has gone from not very good to very bad. She's now lost another 4 lbs in weight (now 6st 11lbs). She only eats slice of toast, quarter round of sandwich and fairy cake a day! She doesn't like 40 slips, nor complain nor anything else I've bought and given her. I do ensure she drinks at lot with lots of encouragement from me. She's been sleeping most of the time and said she feels sick. I've had the GP home to her twice but he said physically she's not in bad shape but has put her onto Prozac for her depression. Trouble is the last week she'd been wanting to go to bed, and the evening carer keeps knocking at my door (I live right next door) when Mum says she doesn't want anything to eat. So this evening I have cancelled the carer as Mum's taken to her bed and refuses a meal! Now do I cancel the evening carer for good? Seems defeating the object if a) Mum won't eat and b) the carer keeps knocking at my door to get me to come into her. The carers are supposed to be giving me a break not keep making me go into Mum! Also, last time she was in care home (I was ill at the time) the CH kept ringing me every day so Mum could speak to me. This time I have written to the CH telling them I am only to be contacted in an emergency and that I will be putting my phone onto voicemail - I am actually going away this time. Am I just unlucky or do others keep getting contacted like this? Sue xx