Hello, I'm new here (and new to Forums). My mother aged 79 has been suffering from dementia for over 5 years. She is in an EMI home now but she often refuses all help from the careers including her personal care. As you know with dementia, she cannot now remember how to work through the process of washing/bathing/showering herself and so she is just getting smellier and smellier as she is incontinent too, but refuses to wear pads. I'm just psyching myself up to go in again this afternoon and persuade her into a bath as it seems I am the only one who can manage it. The staff say she has a human right to refuse help, but surely it is unhealthy to rarely wash? Anyone any ideas or help on this? I'm feeling more and more in despair with this whole situation.