Just to update members on our situation. If you remember my previous posts My husband had deteriorated quite rapidly these past couple of months as well as needing help with dressing washing etc he had also become very agressive. I am disabled and we reached crisis point about 2 weeks ago and he was admitted to emergency respite although he went voluntarily after a lot of persuasion by SS and CPN thye were prepared to section him if needed.
I* have not seen him since then but my son and daughter ...his step children... have been helping me . we have found a very good care home and he has moved there today.
All was fine he liked his room and his personal things were there he had lunch and a long walk in the grounds.
We had a call from the new home saying that the respite home had not sent his medications with him and that his drug sheet was last entered three days ago
my daughter went to the GP and got a months prescriptions and took them to the new home.
when she got there Jim went into one of his rants saying he wasn't staying there ...if I cant cope put me into a home and he will go back to His house and look after himself there is nothing wrong with him....saying some viscious things about me and how he has always given me the best of everything for over 30 years ( we have only been together 10years.) His first marriage was not a happy one and he seems to confuse the two and I have always contributed half of our living expenses since we have been together Jim has not kept me nor do I expect him to.
Sorry it is such a long post....anyway what I am now concerned about is that his eldest son is going to visit him tomorrow with Jims brothers ...they have not been in contact much over the last 10 years but all of a sudden they are experts on alzheimers disease and are telling him that he is ok and doesn't need to be in a care home!!
I am worried sick that they will bring him home here to me I really cannot go on this way His son was told by me that Jim was deteriorating about 7 weeks ago the comment he made then was well if he needs to go into care then thats what will happen however he didn't come and see him and commented to his sister that he doubted that he would come up to the funeral if his dad died!!
Does anyone have any experience of people being removed from care without consulting the spouse/main carer? I am dreading my step son's visit.
judith
I* have not seen him since then but my son and daughter ...his step children... have been helping me . we have found a very good care home and he has moved there today.
All was fine he liked his room and his personal things were there he had lunch and a long walk in the grounds.
We had a call from the new home saying that the respite home had not sent his medications with him and that his drug sheet was last entered three days ago
my daughter went to the GP and got a months prescriptions and took them to the new home.
when she got there Jim went into one of his rants saying he wasn't staying there ...if I cant cope put me into a home and he will go back to His house and look after himself there is nothing wrong with him....saying some viscious things about me and how he has always given me the best of everything for over 30 years ( we have only been together 10years.) His first marriage was not a happy one and he seems to confuse the two and I have always contributed half of our living expenses since we have been together Jim has not kept me nor do I expect him to.
Sorry it is such a long post....anyway what I am now concerned about is that his eldest son is going to visit him tomorrow with Jims brothers ...they have not been in contact much over the last 10 years but all of a sudden they are experts on alzheimers disease and are telling him that he is ok and doesn't need to be in a care home!!
I am worried sick that they will bring him home here to me I really cannot go on this way His son was told by me that Jim was deteriorating about 7 weeks ago the comment he made then was well if he needs to go into care then thats what will happen however he didn't come and see him and commented to his sister that he doubted that he would come up to the funeral if his dad died!!
Does anyone have any experience of people being removed from care without consulting the spouse/main carer? I am dreading my step son's visit.
judith