well where do i start? have just had the worst three days of my life. FIL has AD and VD. MIL called to say she could not cope with him as he had accused her of having an affair. He is 77 and she is 69. We went down and talked to him and thought all was OK and had convinced him this was all in his mind and I was arranging for him to see his GP to ensure this was not a UTI. I have been in meetings all day at work so when i return to my office i notice a huge number of missed calls from a number of MIL friends and MIL and also a txt asking me to call MIL asap. (hubby is a truck driver so I am always first contact) My FIL is quite agile and goes to the shops everyday as part of his routine which we are quite happy for him to do. It appears that although we thought he realised that he has found the said 68 (quite fit and agile) year old gentleman and hit him. Luckily there were delivery men who witnessed it and it took to of them to hold FIL back. He is tall and slight but obviously found the strength from somewhere!!!! I rang the CPN and the gp tonight and it is thought he has an infection, however he has a very painful leg from falling in the fight and it transpires he has a very swollen testicle so we are awaiting an emergency scan to come through. Not only could I cry for FIL but MIL just does not seem to grasp the idea he is ill. This is killing husband as he is the only one left as we lost his younger brother to cancer four years ago. What kind of wife just turns her back and ignores this making out she is the victim I am so angry as neither of us can afford to leave work and care for him yet she refuses to have carers in. sorry but had to let off steam and not fair to do this to hubby he has enough on his plate.