Dear Mr Hughes
I am writing to tell you that I strongly object to your comments in today's Telegraph; although disturbed by the overtly racist tone of your comments, I wish to ask you to look at the bigger picture regarding caring for the elderly, or, in my Husband's case not so elderly.
To state that ' Families should follow the example of Asian and African immigrants and take greater responsibility for their elderly relations instead of “forcing” them into care homes,' shows a complete lack of understanding; as previously stated I will concentrate my comments on the 'care' aspect of your comments. I did not refuse to take responsibility or force my Husband into a care home; I left my job to care for him and by the time he went into a CH he was at the severe stage of Alzheimer and Bipolar 1 with mixed episodes. He was not forced as he had no cognition left to make a decision-I was told he needed 24 hour care, and I couldn't do that due to 'carer burnout'
Maybe my 'carer burnout' would have been avoided if there was more care offered for Dementia sufferers; perhaps you could put the blame on Social Services and the necessity for Local Councils to increase the care tariffs due to Central Government funds being cut. Perhaps you should blame these Institutions not the families and carers who do their up-most to support their relatives. To desribe my Husband as one who has been 'neglected' is an insult to myself and many, many others who have done the caring, not out of 'obligation' but out of concern and most of all love, but who can no longer cope.
Mr Hughes I'm sure you are already receiving many emails regarding your racist and insensitive comments so do not ask a junior aide to reply stating that you have been mis-quoted or your comments have been taken out of context. Please publically apologise to all the Carers of ALL cultures. Of course, if you could find it in yourself to apologise for the cuts in Social Care that would also help. Above all I would really like you to apologise for encouraging the 'guilt monster' to sit firmly on the shoulders of all of the Carers in the UK who have had to make the difficult decision to place their loved ones in Care Homes.
Finally, may I direct you to the Alzheimers Society 'Talking Point' Forum. There you will find the truth about caring. It's nothing to do with race or culture; it's all about heartbreak.
Background; my Husband, Peter, is 67, ill for 8 years, severe stage Alzheimer's, Bipolar 1 with mixed episodes, COPD and Asthma. Violent/agitated/doubly incontinent/unable to speak coherently, or understand what is being said to him. Only just able to walk. Unable to feed himself.
Couldn't help myself. I had to send this.
take care
Lyn T