Hi everyone
I haven't posted in a while. A new care agency was brought in for my mother (severe vascular dementia, MMSE score 7, living alone at home) at the end of Jan and things seemed better. I actually thought we could cope with this.
Then yesterday I arrive at her house and she isn't there. The scenario I have always feared the most. Keys and handbag inside, one red shoe missing (she took just the one!) and all coats still on their hangers.
I call the police in a panic, and turns out neighbours have called twice already (it's only 10 am at this point) as she has gone out wandering twice already so far that day.
Police bring her to me, tell me they have been called six times since Feb - no-one had told me! and that they had made adult protection referrals to SS each time. No action taken! I had known about wandering in Jan and reported to SS but had no idea of the number of incidents or police involvement. Police also said neighbours (who have key safe code) have said they have taken her back home many times and not reported to police or SS.
Police were very firm with me that she cannot live in her home alone as clearly not safe and promised to make their views clear to SS on Monday (tomorrow).
So this morning I find eight missed calls on my phone, nearly have a heart attack when I see this, and discover she has done it again! A member of the public found her and called the police.
I am desperate. I have now made a formal complaint to SS about their failure to act on the AP referrals, but let's face it they can do whatever they want and they know it.
I don't know what to do.
For more than six months I have begged SS to put her into residential care and they told me in Jan (two days before the first known wandering incident) that she was "fully independent"- despite having a MMSE score of 7 at the time!
I have reported every concern to them, every wandering and safety incident, providing photo evidence when I could, but they have always acted like I'm some kind of nut who exaggerates everything. I contacted my local MP who suggested I "continue to press them". Waste of space.
How do I make these people listen and actually do something! She has the mental capacity of a four year old. No-one would dream of letting a four year old live alone so how can they let her? It's crazy.
I feel so desperate and depressed tonight.
How much longer can this go on? Why isn't there anyone who will help us?
Sorry I don't mean to sound dramatic, but really feel so hopeless.
I haven't posted in a while. A new care agency was brought in for my mother (severe vascular dementia, MMSE score 7, living alone at home) at the end of Jan and things seemed better. I actually thought we could cope with this.
Then yesterday I arrive at her house and she isn't there. The scenario I have always feared the most. Keys and handbag inside, one red shoe missing (she took just the one!) and all coats still on their hangers.
I call the police in a panic, and turns out neighbours have called twice already (it's only 10 am at this point) as she has gone out wandering twice already so far that day.
Police bring her to me, tell me they have been called six times since Feb - no-one had told me! and that they had made adult protection referrals to SS each time. No action taken! I had known about wandering in Jan and reported to SS but had no idea of the number of incidents or police involvement. Police also said neighbours (who have key safe code) have said they have taken her back home many times and not reported to police or SS.
Police were very firm with me that she cannot live in her home alone as clearly not safe and promised to make their views clear to SS on Monday (tomorrow).
So this morning I find eight missed calls on my phone, nearly have a heart attack when I see this, and discover she has done it again! A member of the public found her and called the police.
I am desperate. I have now made a formal complaint to SS about their failure to act on the AP referrals, but let's face it they can do whatever they want and they know it.
I don't know what to do.
For more than six months I have begged SS to put her into residential care and they told me in Jan (two days before the first known wandering incident) that she was "fully independent"- despite having a MMSE score of 7 at the time!
I have reported every concern to them, every wandering and safety incident, providing photo evidence when I could, but they have always acted like I'm some kind of nut who exaggerates everything. I contacted my local MP who suggested I "continue to press them". Waste of space.
How do I make these people listen and actually do something! She has the mental capacity of a four year old. No-one would dream of letting a four year old live alone so how can they let her? It's crazy.
I feel so desperate and depressed tonight.
How much longer can this go on? Why isn't there anyone who will help us?
Sorry I don't mean to sound dramatic, but really feel so hopeless.