Hi, First post so please excuse if I drag on. My wife J (52 years married ) was diagnosed with Alzheimer's just over 2 years ago. very short term memory but luckily can still remember people. Originally put on Galantamine but after about 1 year had a bad reaction so was put on Exelon 9.5mg patches. Had a mild stroke about 8 months ago and again luckily suffered no lasting effects with movement. Have noticed some changes lately and am wondering how to proceed. J. has never accepted she has anything wrong with her and attributes her memory loss to old age! but now has moments of not knowing where she is. In the evening she will ask "when are we going home?" and it takes time for her to realise where she is. This has also been happening whilst we are in bed, not recognising her surroundings. Should I take this further or is this another phase we are starting? We do and go everywhere together so it is difficult to speak to anyone on my own and whilst our local doctors are great, we have no one in the practice who specialises in Dementure. Have been reading other posts so any help would be appreciated. D.H.
Hi, and welcome to the forum. The changes you mention are quite common, a loss of insight means an inability to see her own situation. As frustrating as that can be, I think it is a protection mechanism, even though it can make your life difficult since she may not realise her own limitations.
Asking about going home is also common, and as others have said, may have been triggered because of another underlying condition, Urinary Tract Infection for example. The best thing to do is be calming and reassuring, and not point out that she's already home. Distraction is a way of diverting her from the question, or simply saying it's ok, we're together and anywhere we are together is home, or say we will just be here for a bit and then we can go home. She will most likely forget in a few minutes and you will have avoided causing her alarm or anxiety.
I understand how hard it is to discuss things when your wife is with you, it is so hard because you want to protect her and not speak as though she isn't there. I used to put together an email for the dr outlining how Dad was and what was happening, and send it several days in advance so she was aware of what had been happening, but Dad didn't feel embarrassed or humiliated. Is it possible for the GP to refer your wife to a relevant specialist?
I'm sure you're doing a great job, and there is a wealth of information here to help.
Stephanie