Hi Maggy
It is sometimes possible to care for someone at home till the end. I did with my mum who had dementia .
The difference is, I was a woman looking after my 80+ yr old mum, rather than caring for a man.
She could walk a little with my support, she couldn't do anything else for herself.
I am quite strong for my age, don't have a bad back, I do have a touch of Arthritis in my knee and had learned a lot from when my nan was in a hospice where I was encouraged to continue helping with Nan.
You not only need to consider the physical aspects of caring till the end, TBH I found the emotional side harder to deal with, the emotional side of caring for a husband or wife must be much harder than it was for me looking after mum , and that was hard enough !
These are my views based on my experiences with mum for the last yrs of her life, you and others reading may find / feel different
No matter how much help you have , the worry is 24/7. 15 hrs a week help that they will provide you is a drop in the ocean , but better than nothing.
Their are times when I felt helpless, thought I couldn't cope, wasn't doing enough for mum.
You have all the responsibility, rather than shared as it is now.
It is likely the carers wont be there when you need them, ie for an emergency wash and brush up and clean up after an accident, though you do get used to cleaning up piles of you know what.
I thought the washing machine was likely to die under the strain.
You will need equipment, here in the uk, we can borrow lots of thing from the NHS loan store, I do not know if you have anything similar where you are.
I borrowed things like
A brill hospital bed, it could even turn into a sort of chair.
An airflow mattress that helped prevent pressure/bed sores.
cot sides with bumpers.
A wheeled commode that could go over the loo and be used as a transport chair
A very handy slide sheet
No it wasn't easy !!!I wont pretend it was.
This is a very big BUT, But I was and still am so glad I was able to do what I did for mum, so many on here want to but are unable to
Do think very carefully about what you want to do, and if it wise to move your Husband
I too wish you well in your endeavours
XXX