My Nan is in a care home, myself and my parents visit her on a daily basis, taking her out for lunches, dinners, hair dressers etc. We have not been satisfied with the care home for some time and have made arrangements to move her to a more suitable one closer to us for better quality of life. The current care home have actively been against this from the beginning. They have told us that this is not what my Nan wants but we know this to be false. My Nan gets very upset about the prospect of staying in the home and tells us on every visit that she wishes to move, however the social services have now been involved and have put a safe guarding issue on my Nan claiming we are not acting in her best interests. This has stemmed from her sobbing her heart out on her return from lunch with us, with the care home claiming we took her to a loud place which distressed her (not the case, we took her to a quiet chip shop on the sea front where she commented she was having a lovely time). We were not contacted to inform us that she was distressed and instead social services have revoked our rights to take her out from now on.
My Nan has been known to get upset when we leave and is very happy to see us. I believe she was distressed as she no longer wishes to be at the care home so far from family. We have done everything the social services and the care home have asked of us yet they still actively work against us. I am totally lost as to what I can do to help my Nan with everyone seeming to be against us. Stopping my Nan from going out with family and enjoying herself seems cruel to me. When we visit now she assumes we are going out as usual and we have to tell her that we can't and its breaking our hearts, I wouldn't want to be stuck in that place for a day let alone indefinitely.
I guess Im just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this from care homes or social services as we are strongly starting to take this very personally and don't know what to do.
My Nan has been known to get upset when we leave and is very happy to see us. I believe she was distressed as she no longer wishes to be at the care home so far from family. We have done everything the social services and the care home have asked of us yet they still actively work against us. I am totally lost as to what I can do to help my Nan with everyone seeming to be against us. Stopping my Nan from going out with family and enjoying herself seems cruel to me. When we visit now she assumes we are going out as usual and we have to tell her that we can't and its breaking our hearts, I wouldn't want to be stuck in that place for a day let alone indefinitely.
I guess Im just wondering if anyone else has experienced anything like this from care homes or social services as we are strongly starting to take this very personally and don't know what to do.