Thank you. I had not considered that the GP was perhaps doing it by the book and protecting himself. I can see this might be the case.
In discussions with the nursing sisters at the home they have pointed out many times, almost apologetically, that they have to offer mum food, or they would be failing in their duty of care. So small meals, biscuits, cups of tea etc etc are all placed next to mum and then taken away an hour later. Cold and untouched.
Offering is one thing, my aunt was offered, but I have seen a poor lady at my mother's care home being pestered and badgered to eat - albeit with the best of intentions and the carer is lovely - but the poor lady has lost all intelligible speech and just kept crying and whimpering and turning her head away. I know they see it as 'duty of care' but this poor lady is in an even worse state than my mother, which is saying something. If my mother ever gets to the stage of refusing food and drink, I will be very forceful in insisting on allowing her that choice, which is after all about the only one she has left.