A new stage in my life...................
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I've just been thinking that in reality it shows more a lack of understanding of TP than anything else.
My experience of other forums is limited but I don't think all are like TP.
TP is about so much more than finding information about dementia isn't it. Therefore, others are not going to understand.
No need to apologise, Sylvia. Just TP going into overdrive again!!!
My experience of other forums is limited but I don't think all are like TP.
TP is about so much more than finding information about dementia isn't it. Therefore, others are not going to understand.
No need to apologise, Sylvia. Just TP going into overdrive again!!!
We are all real.
I read it as coming from someone knowing nothing about dementia and certainly not anyone on TP or involved with AS. Don't be sorry, Sylvia. See how everyone jumped to your defense. It shows how much you are valued and loved here on TP.
So sorry for causing you any upset, Sylvia (the last thing I would wish to do.)
I have just finished putting my toys back in my pram..........
(In my defence, I do worry that TP might one day be 'phased out', for reasons of finance. Judging by the response to today's hiccup, I don't think they would dare!)
sleepless x
I have just finished putting my toys back in my pram..........
(In my defence, I do worry that TP might one day be 'phased out', for reasons of finance. Judging by the response to today's hiccup, I don't think they would dare!)
sleepless x
I guessed it was from someone who knew nothing about TP. After my dad died I had a couple of comments from non TP people suggesting that I had an unhealthy obsession with TP (where on earth did they get that idea from? ) and that I should move on from the world of dementia.
I'm happy to say I ignored them, and nearly 4 years later I'm still here, and no plans to go anywhere. Other people do find that they visit less or not at all. It's all down to personal choice.
) and that I should move on from the world of dementia.I'm happy to say I ignored them, and nearly 4 years later I'm still here, and no plans to go anywhere. Other people do find that they visit less or not at all. It's all down to personal choice.
I would just like to add that I have always felt that this is a safe forum, in that there is no bad language, and/or offensive comments.
I hold another forum (for those who have lost loved ones to suicide) in the same respect for these same reasons.
Both are immensely supportive. 'Real' friends are valued, but would they really want to chat or give advice at 2.00 a.m.? Just reading on here in the wee small hours makes me feel less alone, and it's the place to come to with any questions or concerns.
I hold another forum (for those who have lost loved ones to suicide) in the same respect for these same reasons.
Both are immensely supportive. 'Real' friends are valued, but would they really want to chat or give advice at 2.00 a.m.? Just reading on here in the wee small hours makes me feel less alone, and it's the place to come to with any questions or concerns.
I am always aware that without having experienced life as a carer for someone with dementia, this could have been me. I personally feel that I would have never 'known' sensitivity without the experience of being a carer for someone with dementia. I therefore am reluctant to judge. TP also needs to be experienced rather than explained as the experience would surpass anything one was told.
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After my dad died I had a couple of comments from non TP people suggesting that I had an unhealthy obsession with TP (where on earth did they get that idea from?
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I think that's the attitude of my critics Sue. It makes me defensive and then it makes me cross. Another case of unsolicited advice which I do not need.
How insensitive! I for one would hate to leave TP I'm sure I'll be here for years to come as I'm sure all of you will be too.
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So sorry that a relative was so insensitive with their comment Sylvia. They have no right to comment on what you are doing in your own time and in your own home. Maybe they have no understanding of what TP means to all the its members.
With all the posts today you know how everyone here feels
Take care, Carol X
With all the posts today you know how everyone here feels
Take care, Carol X
Sylvia you have always been a real friend from the very first time I posted.
I could tell straight away!
I could tell straight away!
Just caught up with your thread Sylvia. So glad that Dhiren is home. Sending love and support xx
Sylvia,
Oops!
Ignore them all and come to the people who do understand what has happened and have more than an inkling of how you may feel.
Mum died almost 6 years ago now, but I still pop in from time to time to see how my TP friends are doing. I don't have as much time now, for life goes on. However the board was my support and crutch through a period in my life which was tough..and occasionally I can give back, though not as much as I was once able.
Love Mameeskye
Oops!
Ignore them all and come to the people who do understand what has happened and have more than an inkling of how you may feel.
Mum died almost 6 years ago now, but I still pop in from time to time to see how my TP friends are doing. I don't have as much time now, for life goes on. However the board was my support and crutch through a period in my life which was tough..and occasionally I can give back, though not as much as I was once able.
Love Mameeskye
I agree with Helen. How can other people possibly understand? Before TP I had no understanding of forums and I was amazed at how helpful and supportive everyone was here.
I think that the reason we are all here is actually due to other people's lack of understanding. Where else would we get the support we need?
I have had similar comments from people both before my husband died and since. On the whole these were people who meant well but who were clueless about dementia, the problems you face and how lonely and isolated you can become when you are a carer. Nor do they understand that it is very difficult to detach yourself from the world of dementia after you have lost someone. How can you after years of caring?
These people are very fortunate.
I think that the reason we are all here is actually due to other people's lack of understanding. Where else would we get the support we need?
I have had similar comments from people both before my husband died and since. On the whole these were people who meant well but who were clueless about dementia, the problems you face and how lonely and isolated you can become when you are a carer. Nor do they understand that it is very difficult to detach yourself from the world of dementia after you have lost someone. How can you after years of caring?
These people are very fortunate.
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