My Father who is nearly 94 has dual dementia and was put into a care home (CH) in June last year. Last week he was moved into the more severe area of the home as they said his dementia had worsened and he would get better care in that area as they were dementia trained.
Yesterday Mother, who is extremely frail herself, visited, on her 84th birthday, to find he had 3 pullovers on and was smelling badly! She took nearly an hour to sort him out. I asked her if she spoken to the staff about how she had found him, she said she had but they said they could only do so much and sometimes he would not cooperate!
Over the last few months I have had discussions with the CH deputy manager about the same issues / situations, which was one of the reasons they transferred him upstairs for the more supposed specialist care!
As I live 3 hours away, I cannot help on a day to day basis (which I would love to do), and am so frustrated that the care, we are paying dearly for, seems so fundamentally lacking! How can this be classed as being cared for with dignity and respect?
What do I do? I feel so helpless!
Yesterday Mother, who is extremely frail herself, visited, on her 84th birthday, to find he had 3 pullovers on and was smelling badly! She took nearly an hour to sort him out. I asked her if she spoken to the staff about how she had found him, she said she had but they said they could only do so much and sometimes he would not cooperate!
Over the last few months I have had discussions with the CH deputy manager about the same issues / situations, which was one of the reasons they transferred him upstairs for the more supposed specialist care!
As I live 3 hours away, I cannot help on a day to day basis (which I would love to do), and am so frustrated that the care, we are paying dearly for, seems so fundamentally lacking! How can this be classed as being cared for with dignity and respect?
What do I do? I feel so helpless!