Hello,
My father has dementia and my mother is sole carer to him. This Christmas I was at home and I noticed that dad has become more and more controlling. Mainly about the house - he likes the lights a certain way and is obsessed about saving money.These aren't too much a problem, but he has also become very controlling of my mother (and indeed, anyone else who enters the house!) - trying to stop her leaving the house, generally trying to control her behaviour/ actions. It must be very frustrating for mum and she is understandably losing her temper with him quite a bit. I wondered if anyone else had experienced this or had any tips I could pass on to help the situation? I'm unsure whether I should suggest mum stands up to him when he tries to control her, or whether to back down and just go along with it, although this seems to mean she is quickly losing any life herself... she is in very good health for 75 so this is sad to see.They are sitting in a house alone staring at each other 24/7 so hardly surprising there are arguements! Have tried encouraging them to get out and do something but they are a bit stuck in their routine.
My father has dementia and my mother is sole carer to him. This Christmas I was at home and I noticed that dad has become more and more controlling. Mainly about the house - he likes the lights a certain way and is obsessed about saving money.These aren't too much a problem, but he has also become very controlling of my mother (and indeed, anyone else who enters the house!) - trying to stop her leaving the house, generally trying to control her behaviour/ actions. It must be very frustrating for mum and she is understandably losing her temper with him quite a bit. I wondered if anyone else had experienced this or had any tips I could pass on to help the situation? I'm unsure whether I should suggest mum stands up to him when he tries to control her, or whether to back down and just go along with it, although this seems to mean she is quickly losing any life herself... she is in very good health for 75 so this is sad to see.They are sitting in a house alone staring at each other 24/7 so hardly surprising there are arguements! Have tried encouraging them to get out and do something but they are a bit stuck in their routine.