Hi to all,
It feels good having the feedback, I’ll try to keep this brief.
My Mums Dr. Declared Mum had dementia in Oct 2001, in Feb 2003 my Mum signed the document and appointed this person epa.
The burden of proof is on me but, how can you get to Bank Statements which would prove my Mums savings have all but disappeared, when the Law is against me having that proof.
Mums home neglected, severally neglected, not insured, and the person with the epa does not care to take care of Mums home, refuses to rent the home even to Mums grand-child. For 4 years mums home sits empty and neglected, because all this epa wants is to sell, and share out the proceeds.
BUT....It is not the money so much as the Care this epa blocks from any direction. This epa wrote to Court of Pro. Mum does not need material things as she has Alzheimer.
When ever I try to give extra comfort this epa will block it, incase it could cost money.
An alleged abuse case where my Mum accused a staff member of strangulation, plus an elderly person died suspiciously around this time. That person was fired I got a Solicitor to act for my Mum. This epa refuse to pay, said it wasn’t needed.
One last incident, after too many times finding my Mum in conditions inappropriate I wrote a formal complaint, which was justified, and the Health Board took great care to correct all the wrongs things at this Home.
Now, I have found another Home recommended by the Health Board the move was to take place the end of this month, and the Courts decisions came in 4 days ago, keeping this epa. I am exhausted from fighting to give Mum what she so deserves, this 4 years has been an uphill climb when this epa blocks all I try to do when it comes to a little extra money which Mum has plenty of. I would like to fight the Courts decision, but I just can’t see what else I have to do to ‘Prove’ this epa incapable.
Even though an epa only has control over finances, you will be surprised how much the Health Board honors anything this epa says, she has the last word on any thing, and I have to watch Mum go without.
Thank you for being able to share this with people who listen.
Maggie.
P.s. very interested to read Next-of-kin. on a visit, I asked to see my Mums chart at the Home where everything is written down concerning Mum. I do this often. On this day I was told, I will have to ask the Supervisor, I had a registered Nurse with me at the time to evaluate Mum for this new Home. The supervisor came into Mums room asked who this person was who with me, a friend I said, Then I was told, ‘Only the next-of-kin can read your Mums notes’ I insisted I was my Mother’s daughter, they just repeated to me, ;Only the next-of -kin is allowed to read the your Mums notes, and I’m sorry you cannot. BUT... I bet you this epa would be allowed, but this epa stated in her letter to Court of Pro. She prefers to leave Mums care to the ‘Professional’ The complaint I made and my Sister made was sent to Court of Pro.
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