Hi Silver Lining and welcome to talking point my husband is 66 and was diagnosed with Vascular Dementia about 5 years ago but he has had it a lot longer,He is also disabled and uses a wheelchair the only way I can cope is if he goes to a day centre, he went one day a week at first but it has now increased to 3 days from 10 until 3 ,
I was advised to get more rest after being rushed to hospital with a suspected heart attack but it turned out to be stress and acid reflux,
It was not easy getting him to go but he was told it was either this or I would be too ill to look after him at all,
He has also had about 5 weekends of respite in this time when he has gone to the same Care Home where he goes to the day centre ,
I hope that you can get some help as you have to look after your health as well,
Best wishes Jeany x