Hi all. My mum has a befriender/sitter from the Crossroads organisation who comes for two hours a week. At the initial meeting I was told that (within reason) my mum could ask the carer to do anything she fancied activity wise. Things like taking her shopping/helping with housework or doing a puzzle together were suggested. I was also told that the carer would leave a folder in the house where she would detail what they had done that week.
The carer has been coming for about a month (once a week) and no folder has appeared. She comes when I am at work so I don't ever see her but I did meet her at the first visit and thought she seemed very nice but a bit clueless - I left her and my mum alone for half an hour and when I returned to the room they were sitting in silence. I suggested a puzzle and then she did seem to get stuck in.
Since then though my mum has complained that all they do is walk to the shop (she's convinced the carer did her own weekly shop while they were there last week but I'm not sure about that) - what I want to know is, should the carer be capable of suggesting things for them to do? I somehow expected her to be more proactive but as my mum is not interested in doing housework (I wish), they seem to spend the two hours sitting around not doing very much.
At the moment the service is free and I feel a bit like I can't ring the office and complain but my mum is going off the idea rapidly which is a shame because there ain't much in this life that is free. I feel a bit disappointed with it all - mum can't think up activities herself and when I suggested a couple on that first visit (one was to help mum organise her old family photos - she loves looking at them) the carer gave me a look that said 'god, please no' so I shut up pretty rapidly.
I know a lot of people have experience of Crossroads - what has been your experience? Am I being naive in expecting more?
(Btw sorry for the rambling post - can't seem to express myself this morning!!)
The carer has been coming for about a month (once a week) and no folder has appeared. She comes when I am at work so I don't ever see her but I did meet her at the first visit and thought she seemed very nice but a bit clueless - I left her and my mum alone for half an hour and when I returned to the room they were sitting in silence. I suggested a puzzle and then she did seem to get stuck in.
Since then though my mum has complained that all they do is walk to the shop (she's convinced the carer did her own weekly shop while they were there last week but I'm not sure about that) - what I want to know is, should the carer be capable of suggesting things for them to do? I somehow expected her to be more proactive but as my mum is not interested in doing housework (I wish), they seem to spend the two hours sitting around not doing very much.
At the moment the service is free and I feel a bit like I can't ring the office and complain but my mum is going off the idea rapidly which is a shame because there ain't much in this life that is free. I feel a bit disappointed with it all - mum can't think up activities herself and when I suggested a couple on that first visit (one was to help mum organise her old family photos - she loves looking at them) the carer gave me a look that said 'god, please no' so I shut up pretty rapidly.
I know a lot of people have experience of Crossroads - what has been your experience? Am I being naive in expecting more?
(Btw sorry for the rambling post - can't seem to express myself this morning!!)