Sometimes it seems to me that some posters only want to hear a response that echoes their own opinion,
anything other than that is judged as bullying or brusque...note 'judged'....
that word seems to get used by a lot of people on this forum...usually by the people who are judging the most, their judgements seemingly more valid than others'.
When you have an opinion, any opinion.....you ARE being judgemental....you have judged.
To accuse someone of being judgemental is irony at it's best.
I agree with a previous poster, that brusque, opinionated posts ADD to the honesty of this forum,
to me they are as valid as the posts that say 'so sorry, thinking of you' or other pleasantries...that would be all that would be said if we filter opinion and discussion out of the allowed input.
There was a new member this week who sadly left, upset because she didn't feel the forum supported her opinion.
I felt sad that she decided to leave, I felt she should have listened and understood better the responses she had to her post (I was NOT a respondent, before you ask...in fact the majority of responses were from moderators).....
my point is...did the poster expect everyone just to agree? if so, then she expected too much from a public forum.
We're all grown-ups on here and it's a rare thing to have total consensus and detrimental not to allow a voice to a different opinion.
I have read through tons of archived posts and threads and believe me, there has been constant differing of opinions, threats to leave, accusations, upsets, apologies.... it's nothing new...in fact to change it to a forum full of sympathetic, bland responses and platitudes would be changing Talking Point.....there would be no point and no talking.
This is of course MY opinion, which I am fully entitled to hold and I fully expect some to agree and some to disagree with it.....it's called debate.
I accept that.