I've started to consider care homes for mum, letting my head rule rather than my heart. Such a hard decision to make. I always said only when she didn't know me would I make the decision, I don't get any time with my husband or grown up daughters, I always thought that when it got bad you wouldn't know you had dementia, for the past weeks mum is really scared, doesn't know where she is but tells me that there is nothing in her head and that she is loosing her mind. I always though she wouldn't know, today has been particularly difficult she hasn't known who I am or my children, she even makes things up or has hallucinations. She has been awake since 7am today and still can't go to sleep because she is afraid of being in a strange room (its her own room) I'm up every 15 mins reassuring her. Does anyone know how homes cope? Do they medicate people to sleep or do they sit and comfort them, I couldn't bare the thought of her being left afraid at night,