I hope not to have the casting up experience!
I have a friend who is a neighbour who helps me once a week with the housework. She started doing this about a year after I moved in with mum as her carer and I was having a hard time mentally and emotionally. She is a carer herself for her 40year old son. I don't find housework high on my list...can't help it...my mum never had housework high on her list.....some people are just like that. My friend is the opposite, Spick and Span Plus. She likes to help and I really appreciate her help. And it gets me moving knowing that she's coming in. Now it's quite normal for me (feeling better mentally and emotionally) to do most of it before she gets here (wouldn't want to take the ****) Then we finish up together, have a natter about our caring experiences of the week, how we're all feeling and I think we have a nice, mutually supportive relationship. If she turned round and threw in my face 'how much she'd done for me' I'd be shocked and know I'd missed something. Either there was a condition attached that I wasn't aware of.....or that I was taking the ****...Either way, I'd want to talk to her and find out the cause of the upset. And try and sort it out. After all, sometimes we don't realise when we're taking people for granted because we're just doing our lives in the way we think best, and it's hard to know what's in someone's head who's trying to help us. I hope you sort it out worriedson or, if you're anything like me, the house would look neglected!
I have a friend who is a neighbour who helps me once a week with the housework. She started doing this about a year after I moved in with mum as her carer and I was having a hard time mentally and emotionally. She is a carer herself for her 40year old son. I don't find housework high on my list...can't help it...my mum never had housework high on her list.....some people are just like that. My friend is the opposite, Spick and Span Plus. She likes to help and I really appreciate her help. And it gets me moving knowing that she's coming in. Now it's quite normal for me (feeling better mentally and emotionally) to do most of it before she gets here (wouldn't want to take the ****) Then we finish up together, have a natter about our caring experiences of the week, how we're all feeling and I think we have a nice, mutually supportive relationship. If she turned round and threw in my face 'how much she'd done for me' I'd be shocked and know I'd missed something. Either there was a condition attached that I wasn't aware of.....or that I was taking the ****...Either way, I'd want to talk to her and find out the cause of the upset. And try and sort it out. After all, sometimes we don't realise when we're taking people for granted because we're just doing our lives in the way we think best, and it's hard to know what's in someone's head who's trying to help us. I hope you sort it out worriedson or, if you're anything like me, the house would look neglected!