Hi all. Its been ages since I have posted but I am feeling overwhelmed having just been told last Friday that my dad has AD and now yesterday got the news that my MIL has been confirmed with VD. My dear old mum has been put into a CH, with mixed Dementia final stages, last October and it has been an absolute nightmare with my dad all that time, everyday I get a phone call from The DON to ask if I can talk to my dad about his behaviour to the point, on the advise and support of the DON (Director Of Nursing), to take it to the Guardianship Tribunal, which I did back in April, to have all care and decisions taken away from him.
From October till February, the DON had received 10 x A4 double sided pages of incident reports ranging from abusing staff and residents, to re arranging the furniture to his liking, not allowing my mum to be involved with any activities, to interfering with her meds and not allowing her to eat certain things on her plate because she started putting on weight and "getting fat", mind you she weighed 57 kilo's when she went to the CH!! This caused him and I to become estranged till about 2 weeks ago when his mental health support worker has worked really hard to get him to understand that he is not helping things, but also has convinced him to get help, which has led to his diagnosis. I am so very grateful to her!
The worst is yet to come when he gets told about his results tomorrow and then they will take his license which is all he has left and has held on like crazy to keep it. I'm afraid my brother and I have already discussed taking his car through the night because all involved are afraid he will drive regardless!!
He is so stubborn and determined that we are waiting to hear what is going to happen from the police and the health services after he shoved a resident in the cottage that mum is in and they had to report it. So he has gone from limited visits to now having to be supervised by myself or my brother who doesn't help much, but I have told my brother he has to help me as I am going to Italy and Europe at the end of the month but cant even get excited about it and on Friday I got to the point of ringing the insurance to ask how I go about cancelling the trip. I just don't want to go and am having big anxiety turns about it.
My poor old MIL has to go into respite next week as my FIL is going in for a knee replacement and she cant be left alone due to her declining condition but also is having repeated diabetic comas. And back in March we also had to put her in for Respite while FIL had a back Operation and she clung to me and she cried and pleaded with me not to take her so not looking forward to next week at all.
Sorry for such a long post just needed to vent today !!
From October till February, the DON had received 10 x A4 double sided pages of incident reports ranging from abusing staff and residents, to re arranging the furniture to his liking, not allowing my mum to be involved with any activities, to interfering with her meds and not allowing her to eat certain things on her plate because she started putting on weight and "getting fat", mind you she weighed 57 kilo's when she went to the CH!! This caused him and I to become estranged till about 2 weeks ago when his mental health support worker has worked really hard to get him to understand that he is not helping things, but also has convinced him to get help, which has led to his diagnosis. I am so very grateful to her!
The worst is yet to come when he gets told about his results tomorrow and then they will take his license which is all he has left and has held on like crazy to keep it. I'm afraid my brother and I have already discussed taking his car through the night because all involved are afraid he will drive regardless!!
He is so stubborn and determined that we are waiting to hear what is going to happen from the police and the health services after he shoved a resident in the cottage that mum is in and they had to report it. So he has gone from limited visits to now having to be supervised by myself or my brother who doesn't help much, but I have told my brother he has to help me as I am going to Italy and Europe at the end of the month but cant even get excited about it and on Friday I got to the point of ringing the insurance to ask how I go about cancelling the trip. I just don't want to go and am having big anxiety turns about it.
My poor old MIL has to go into respite next week as my FIL is going in for a knee replacement and she cant be left alone due to her declining condition but also is having repeated diabetic comas. And back in March we also had to put her in for Respite while FIL had a back Operation and she clung to me and she cried and pleaded with me not to take her so not looking forward to next week at all.
Sorry for such a long post just needed to vent today !!
