Hi,
I have Social Svs coming to see me and Dad tomorrow to do a care assesment and I know that all cases are individual, but can you help me with any questions I should ask?
Dad has had Alzhimeres for 4 years and I live with him. Dad's brothers is his paid carer and helps throughout the day but when I get home, from a 12hr day at the office, I have to care for Dad and after 4 years with no help (in the evenings) I truly am at the end of my tether... that on top of the fact that my fiance walked out on me (because he couldnt cope with living with dad and with me as I am so stressed out at the mo and hard to deal wth, I admit) anyway, we were supposed to be getting married in 15 days time and everything is off!! all cancelled! (this happended 2 months ago) but I'm still gutted... I have now fallen out with my brother as he dosent help me and also my family (aunts and uncles on dads side) as my brother has stirred alot of trouble for me... needless to say I feel isolated and alone... I sincerely need a break from Groundhog day, day in/out... every night is a battle to get dad to eat, drink, take his tablets, he wont wash (my brother does this when he comes over for a measly 2hrs a week - but is gone by the time I get home from work) so i am deseprate for a break...
dad tell me the same story every night and asks me the same questions over and over and over and over again and all I want to do is unwind after a long day.. instead I sit and eat my dinner, with dad, with tears streaming down my face (I dont let Dad see) but admit I am snappy, on occasions with Dad, as its so very very waring and frustrating...and so much has happened in the last 2 months. I am seeing a private counsellor now and have been put on a stress management course by my Doctor... hopefully this will help me to cope with the extreme stress...
Can you help me with any good questions i should ask?
Many thanks
Jo x
I have Social Svs coming to see me and Dad tomorrow to do a care assesment and I know that all cases are individual, but can you help me with any questions I should ask?
Dad has had Alzhimeres for 4 years and I live with him. Dad's brothers is his paid carer and helps throughout the day but when I get home, from a 12hr day at the office, I have to care for Dad and after 4 years with no help (in the evenings) I truly am at the end of my tether... that on top of the fact that my fiance walked out on me (because he couldnt cope with living with dad and with me as I am so stressed out at the mo and hard to deal wth, I admit) anyway, we were supposed to be getting married in 15 days time and everything is off!! all cancelled! (this happended 2 months ago) but I'm still gutted... I have now fallen out with my brother as he dosent help me and also my family (aunts and uncles on dads side) as my brother has stirred alot of trouble for me... needless to say I feel isolated and alone... I sincerely need a break from Groundhog day, day in/out... every night is a battle to get dad to eat, drink, take his tablets, he wont wash (my brother does this when he comes over for a measly 2hrs a week - but is gone by the time I get home from work) so i am deseprate for a break...
dad tell me the same story every night and asks me the same questions over and over and over and over again and all I want to do is unwind after a long day.. instead I sit and eat my dinner, with dad, with tears streaming down my face (I dont let Dad see) but admit I am snappy, on occasions with Dad, as its so very very waring and frustrating...and so much has happened in the last 2 months. I am seeing a private counsellor now and have been put on a stress management course by my Doctor... hopefully this will help me to cope with the extreme stress...
Can you help me with any good questions i should ask?
Many thanks
Jo x