yesterday I contacted the council and asked for a carers assessment.
It was easy identifying the needs of my MIL who only has mobility issues and needs some aids in the home to help her.
She was already registered in their system and all was fine
Then it came time for my mum...
they said what do you want for her ?... I said nothing as such, just an assessment as a carer ... to know am I doing everything right ... and if and when I need some support e.g. respite that maybe they could help etc...
They asked for her number so they could contact her directly... I said no... if you contact her directly without me it will confuse her.
I had explained that she has been referred for a memory assessment and gets easily confused and her short term memory is bad ... I explained she is unlikely to remember and is likely to get defensive and abusive, especially if someone she doesn't know starts asking her questions
They said I should talk to her...... explain and then get back to us so we can continue with her case and contact her directly ..... until then we will put this on hold.
Is it me ???
It was easy identifying the needs of my MIL who only has mobility issues and needs some aids in the home to help her.
She was already registered in their system and all was fine
Then it came time for my mum...
they said what do you want for her ?... I said nothing as such, just an assessment as a carer ... to know am I doing everything right ... and if and when I need some support e.g. respite that maybe they could help etc...
They asked for her number so they could contact her directly... I said no... if you contact her directly without me it will confuse her.
I had explained that she has been referred for a memory assessment and gets easily confused and her short term memory is bad ... I explained she is unlikely to remember and is likely to get defensive and abusive, especially if someone she doesn't know starts asking her questions
They said I should talk to her...... explain and then get back to us so we can continue with her case and contact her directly ..... until then we will put this on hold.
Is it me ???