Hi, I'm new to the forum but not new to Alzheimers. My mum has been in care since about 2007 due to Alzheimers. Since my father died in 2009 we have been a family at war in respect of trying to sort out our parent's house and the contents for which I am one of four brothers and sisters with joint power of attorney. Is there anyone out there who can help? One of the sisters has accused the rest of us of mis-handling the affairs of our mother and wrote to the Office of the Public Guardian. We supplied copies of everything we had done to the OPG and they wrote back stating there was no need for further investigation - however our sister will not let this go and is determined to pin something on us if she can (questioning us in front of a Solicitor about receipts and asking why our father closed a joint bank account held with our mother 6 months before died. We honestly don't know - we know he was ill but he was in perfect mental health). We have done and will do everything we can for our mother making sure that one of us three visit her every day (the sister making allegations refuses to be involved in a rota and visits when she feels like it). We buy her treats every day and I have bought most of her clothes myself. We are confident that we haven't done anything wrong, but the behaviour of our sister is wearing us down.
We understand that we could go down the route of contacting the Court of Protection so that things can be sorted without her, but this is added expense and hassle which we don't want to do if we can avoid it. We are now at the point of winding up our mother's property, and know without a doubt that our parent's wishes would be for the contents of their home to be shared amongst the family with only the remainder sent to auction, but our sister wants everything to go to auction, stating that everything has it's price. We are worried that if we do give anything away, she will do her best to make sure we are charged with theft. Is there anyone out there that can help us understand what we are allowed to do? I have spent a great deal of time looking at behaviours on the internet and believe that our sister is suffering from Paranoia.
We understand that we could go down the route of contacting the Court of Protection so that things can be sorted without her, but this is added expense and hassle which we don't want to do if we can avoid it. We are now at the point of winding up our mother's property, and know without a doubt that our parent's wishes would be for the contents of their home to be shared amongst the family with only the remainder sent to auction, but our sister wants everything to go to auction, stating that everything has it's price. We are worried that if we do give anything away, she will do her best to make sure we are charged with theft. Is there anyone out there that can help us understand what we are allowed to do? I have spent a great deal of time looking at behaviours on the internet and believe that our sister is suffering from Paranoia.
