Since my mom was diagnosed 4 years ago with AD, I have been her primary caregiver. She lives alone, but I manage her finances and her day to day care- companion care and care provided by the pharmacy to deliver and administer her meds. I have tried and tried to get my siblings to help more with my mom's care, but what it comes down to is this: I work shift work (I'm a nurse) and they all either work Monday-Friday or live far away. 4 out of the 5 of us live within an hour's drive of her home.
Recently, I sent yet another frustrated email to them- letting them know I'm feeling overwhelmed and need help with making decisions and arranging care to keep our mother safe.
Interestingly, my sister replied asking me if I thought I might be obsessing about our mom and that she's all I ever think about. She said that hygiene issues like incontinence or wearing smelly clothing wasn't dangerous or life threatening. She doesn't worry, so why should I?
Apparently it's obsessing to want your mother to be clean and smell good, eat properly and take her medications.
Recently, I sent yet another frustrated email to them- letting them know I'm feeling overwhelmed and need help with making decisions and arranging care to keep our mother safe.
Interestingly, my sister replied asking me if I thought I might be obsessing about our mom and that she's all I ever think about. She said that hygiene issues like incontinence or wearing smelly clothing wasn't dangerous or life threatening. She doesn't worry, so why should I?
Apparently it's obsessing to want your mother to be clean and smell good, eat properly and take her medications.