Hi Somerset, i can totally relate to your post, my husband was diagnosed with picks in May this year. He is in the very early stages but my world just fell apart he is 57.(i'm 45) We too were told to get marriage counselling etc but his mum had it and i nursed her too so i stood my ground and demanded he see someone. His behaviour was eratic, aggressive and very sexual not my man at all. I have a daughter that lived with us (19)and it became a very difficult situation....Now that she knows he is ill and has moved into her own place she is rebuilding the close relationship she once had with him.
It is such a rare form of dementia finding out what to expect is very difficult never mind talking to people that have experienced it. So i would appreciate any advice or knowledge you could share. I am trying to keep our farm running and at the moment oh seems to be coping with supervision. he is incapable of managing finances and was giving money away to complete strangers, luckily i found out before he got in that deep we were in trouble, Then in other ways he's perfectly 'normal'. He is now on some medication just to curb some of his behaviours, which seems to have helped and he says he does feel less worried now he is taking them. His boys are still in the uk, not sure how this will affect him later as he does not want to return to the uk now. has anyone got any idea about the time frame i may be looking at before he will have to stop working??? I need to make some sort of plan to keep a roof over our heads and don't know where to start! What am i looking for?? He does tell fibs now and can be a bit secretive and had become quite tactless.
Thanks just for letting me have somewhere to off load xxxx
OTE=Somerset1963;763046]Hi Emma an Hannah.
Welcome, and thank you for sharing your blog. I will have a good look at it. I have two children of 19 and 21 who like you also are loosing their Dad to Picks disease.
We have for the past three to four years seen him deteriorate from a normal able father/husband to now needing full time care.
Sadly like we for a long time were made to believe it was due to depression and midlife crisis. I have had GP raise his eyebrows when I asked if my husband could be seen by a psychiatrist who specializes in all dementia. Also due to confidentiality my concern for my husband was very hard to get recognised. Not to mention the idea of marriage guidance and divorse.
As you say if only a diagnosis could be made sooner and we wouldn't have to suffer quite the same due to lack understanding. I know there is no cure but at least now we are able to look back and recognise the typical symptoms.
We need to make people aware how this illness can effect young teenagers when they slowly loose their Mum or Dad and have to take over many adult responsibilities at a very young age.
Best wishes to you both. Xx
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