This is my first time contacting you. The last 24hrs have been rough going.
Mum is 86yrs and was found by police walking up the high rd in bare feet and wearing a few cardigans . She was diagnosed with Alzheimers 2 years ago.
She refuses to go to the day centre, and has ideas about the staff giving her sly looks and making remarks about her etc. She would get so worked up before she went, she would not go to sleep at night, but put her coat on wanting to be ready for the transport in the early hours. This meant I got no sleep for my working day.
The social worker says there is nothing she can do, she has done what she can,speak to the docters. Mum's docter says that even with different medication it would not change things much, that it is 75% Mum's,mine and social problem,and only 25% medication. No dr will give more or different night sedation as it interferes with balance and can lead to falls.
I cannot physically get Mum onto the transport, so what are we supposed to do? I have reduced my working hours to part time, and now I am having to take sick leave again. Suppose she wanders off again.
Everything would have worked so well... a day centre for Mum on my working days, a carer to see her on and off transport, but I feel so frustrated and at a loss that Mum refuses to go. What happened to the support for carers who wanted to look after their relatives? It seems that when there is no textbook remedy, support goes out the window.
Sorry for ranting, any advice would be greatly received.
Now Mum refuses to talk to me, saying I was to blame for her being brought home by police, and that I should have left work sooner, yesterday.
Mum is 86yrs and was found by police walking up the high rd in bare feet and wearing a few cardigans . She was diagnosed with Alzheimers 2 years ago.
She refuses to go to the day centre, and has ideas about the staff giving her sly looks and making remarks about her etc. She would get so worked up before she went, she would not go to sleep at night, but put her coat on wanting to be ready for the transport in the early hours. This meant I got no sleep for my working day.
The social worker says there is nothing she can do, she has done what she can,speak to the docters. Mum's docter says that even with different medication it would not change things much, that it is 75% Mum's,mine and social problem,and only 25% medication. No dr will give more or different night sedation as it interferes with balance and can lead to falls.
I cannot physically get Mum onto the transport, so what are we supposed to do? I have reduced my working hours to part time, and now I am having to take sick leave again. Suppose she wanders off again.
Everything would have worked so well... a day centre for Mum on my working days, a carer to see her on and off transport, but I feel so frustrated and at a loss that Mum refuses to go. What happened to the support for carers who wanted to look after their relatives? It seems that when there is no textbook remedy, support goes out the window.
Sorry for ranting, any advice would be greatly received.
Now Mum refuses to talk to me, saying I was to blame for her being brought home by police, and that I should have left work sooner, yesterday.