Hello lovely people,
More and more I'm thinking of a care home for Mum.(79 with vas dem). Two years ago I would have bitten your head off if anyone said that I would eventually think of this, and always wondered how anyone could even think about it.
In the scheme of things, I suppose it's not too bad, although we are having more toilet incidents lately.
Because of her limited mobility she won't go wandering; she's very compliant, stays in bed unless she's at day centre, but mentally I'm finding it very difficult. You can't really have anything resembling a normal conversation with her. She doesn't know my name /who I am most of the time, and the constant noises drive me to distraction.
Is it guilt that's driving me? Example to my children that you look after your parents when they need you? or am I afraid that what goes round comes round, and I'll be shoved in a home some day?
I only feel like this in the evenings, when I'm tired and she's supposed to be settling for the night; in the morning I feel better.
How are you all coping with this dilemna and how long would it take to get into one?
More and more I'm thinking of a care home for Mum.(79 with vas dem). Two years ago I would have bitten your head off if anyone said that I would eventually think of this, and always wondered how anyone could even think about it.
In the scheme of things, I suppose it's not too bad, although we are having more toilet incidents lately.
Because of her limited mobility she won't go wandering; she's very compliant, stays in bed unless she's at day centre, but mentally I'm finding it very difficult. You can't really have anything resembling a normal conversation with her. She doesn't know my name /who I am most of the time, and the constant noises drive me to distraction.
Is it guilt that's driving me? Example to my children that you look after your parents when they need you? or am I afraid that what goes round comes round, and I'll be shoved in a home some day?
I only feel like this in the evenings, when I'm tired and she's supposed to be settling for the night; in the morning I feel better.
How are you all coping with this dilemna and how long would it take to get into one?