Hello all, i know this is going to make me sound selfish, but i just cannot bear visiting my beloved mother anymore. Shes had vascular dementia for 3 years and her main problem has been depression , although physically fit and young for her age, ( 77 ), she just will not leave the house ! She has always been a heavy smoker and now just chain smokes from when she gets up. She only uses 1 room in the house, a small one and never open windows or doors. So when i get there after work its just awful and i come out feeling completly ill. Ive always supported her and will continue to do so, but i feel as if my own health is being put at risk. What can i do ?,as i know its all she has to do. i dread every day as i can only go after work when its really bad . It also saddens me that shes not enjoying life anymore. Her friends still visit ( smokers ) I dont even bother anymore telling her of her own health risks, she just says whats the point. The money she spends on them is completely horrendous, literally most of her income.Sorry for sounding selfish, i am a caring daughter really. Does anyone else have this problem ?