Can anyone help please? My mother and father both share the same room a care home. My father spends most of his time in bed and nearly always asleep when I visit. (he is doubly incontinent) My mother, who has Parkinson's with related dementia was until a year ago at home with 24-hr live in carers. She is not incontinent, but obviously confused with the process of going to the toilet. A few weeks ago, I took her slippers home as they stank and on inspection at home they were covered in excrement. I reported this to the Care Home and they said my mother had used an armchair in the room as a toilet. They have now removed the armchair.
I visited yesterday only to find that there was a faece in the sink in her/Dad's room! I reported it to the nurse who again said my mother is probably trying to toilet herself and not getting things right!
My mother receives CHC funding and after being assessed at home was deemed unsafe to stay in her own home because of the risk of falls, I was told she had to go into a care home.
This situation would not have arisen at home, as the carer would have helped my mother when going to the toilet. In a care home the carers are always busy dealing with other residents.
My mother is not incontinent, just confused! The room is now obviously becoming smelly and unpleasant.
Any advice please - should I be more assertive with the care staff and ask them to routinely look in on my mother and provide more regular help for toileting. Even though there is a call bell in the room, neither of my parents ever use it - probably just can't.
I visited yesterday only to find that there was a faece in the sink in her/Dad's room! I reported it to the nurse who again said my mother is probably trying to toilet herself and not getting things right!
My mother receives CHC funding and after being assessed at home was deemed unsafe to stay in her own home because of the risk of falls, I was told she had to go into a care home.
This situation would not have arisen at home, as the carer would have helped my mother when going to the toilet. In a care home the carers are always busy dealing with other residents.
My mother is not incontinent, just confused! The room is now obviously becoming smelly and unpleasant.
Any advice please - should I be more assertive with the care staff and ask them to routinely look in on my mother and provide more regular help for toileting. Even though there is a call bell in the room, neither of my parents ever use it - probably just can't.