I think hubby is starting to exhibit another stage of this illness - but only in a small way.
He seems to be getting a bit possessive over things. When I have done the shopping he seems to get mildy worried that other people in the family will eat things before he gets a chance (I don't think that is possible, as he is forever foraging through the fridge and cupboards )
On a Friday night we all like to sit down as a family and have a couple of drinks and watch a film - but I have noticed him looking a bit agitated by the fact that others are drinking his favourite drink too. It isn't his drink, it is for all of us, but he seems to think of it as his.
Last week, we had a meal out as a family. On the rare occasions that we eat out, my husband and I normally share a bottle of wine with our meal. Neither of our children (both young adults) tend to drink much - but on this occasion my son accepted the offer of a glass of wine. My husband seemed mildly annoyed that he might not get his usual three glasses from a bottle!
It's not just food and drink though. Today my husband said he had dropped a £20 note down side of the bedside cabinet in the bedroom but he could not see it. I went to help and found he had pulled all the drawers out of the cabinet on his side of the bed and emptied them on to the bed in his search. I found the £20 note quite quickly and gave it to hubby and started putting the contents back into the drawer.
Amongst them was a cup with loose change in it. I thought nothing of it and went to put it in the drawer but hubby said "That was my secret emergency money you weren't supposed to know about."
I thought he was joking and just laughed - but then I saw his face and he looked genuinely worried/annoyed. I looked at the cup again and it was half full with £2 coins. Not a vast fortune - probably about £30, but it seemed to be a bit of a concern to him that I knew it was there.
He then put his £20 note into the cup and the whole lot back into the drawer. He said he'd have to find a new place to hide it, and I made light of it and said if he did that, he might forget where it was. He saw the funny side and we both laughed it off - but I still sensed a bit of an underlying disquiet.
I mentioned it to my son when hubby was out this afternoon and son said that during the week his dad often goes into our bedroom and he can hear money being counted and rattled. I started to visualise a Scrooge-come-Fagin character secretly counting his hoard and we both had a bit of a giggle.
Laughter aside though, it is out of character for my husband. He has always been generous and easy-going - the type of person to go without, or to give his last penny to another - so seeing these little steps towards not wanting to share and wanting to hide/hoard things away is setting off a few alarm bells.
I've already forewarned son and daughter about this kind of behaviour and to play it down as much as possible. I suspect it won't be long before he says money has gone missing etc, and I know that is all part and parcel of the behaviour too. I'm trying not to pre-empt what will happen.
I am aware of the changes but it is not a big deal at the moment and I don't want to make a a huge issue of it. I just think it is important for me to log it for my own records though. I find it helps to have something to look back on in the future which will help pin-point when different behaviours start to occur.
In himself hubby is happy, that's the main thing. He has been out bowling this afternoon and having a good time. The more he is out socialising and enjoying life, the less time he will have to brood or be bored and let these kind of worries/irritations surface (I think)
He seems to be getting a bit possessive over things. When I have done the shopping he seems to get mildy worried that other people in the family will eat things before he gets a chance (I don't think that is possible, as he is forever foraging through the fridge and cupboards )
On a Friday night we all like to sit down as a family and have a couple of drinks and watch a film - but I have noticed him looking a bit agitated by the fact that others are drinking his favourite drink too. It isn't his drink, it is for all of us, but he seems to think of it as his.
Last week, we had a meal out as a family. On the rare occasions that we eat out, my husband and I normally share a bottle of wine with our meal. Neither of our children (both young adults) tend to drink much - but on this occasion my son accepted the offer of a glass of wine. My husband seemed mildly annoyed that he might not get his usual three glasses from a bottle!
It's not just food and drink though. Today my husband said he had dropped a £20 note down side of the bedside cabinet in the bedroom but he could not see it. I went to help and found he had pulled all the drawers out of the cabinet on his side of the bed and emptied them on to the bed in his search. I found the £20 note quite quickly and gave it to hubby and started putting the contents back into the drawer.
Amongst them was a cup with loose change in it. I thought nothing of it and went to put it in the drawer but hubby said "That was my secret emergency money you weren't supposed to know about."
I thought he was joking and just laughed - but then I saw his face and he looked genuinely worried/annoyed. I looked at the cup again and it was half full with £2 coins. Not a vast fortune - probably about £30, but it seemed to be a bit of a concern to him that I knew it was there.
He then put his £20 note into the cup and the whole lot back into the drawer. He said he'd have to find a new place to hide it, and I made light of it and said if he did that, he might forget where it was. He saw the funny side and we both laughed it off - but I still sensed a bit of an underlying disquiet.
I mentioned it to my son when hubby was out this afternoon and son said that during the week his dad often goes into our bedroom and he can hear money being counted and rattled. I started to visualise a Scrooge-come-Fagin character secretly counting his hoard and we both had a bit of a giggle.
Laughter aside though, it is out of character for my husband. He has always been generous and easy-going - the type of person to go without, or to give his last penny to another - so seeing these little steps towards not wanting to share and wanting to hide/hoard things away is setting off a few alarm bells.
I've already forewarned son and daughter about this kind of behaviour and to play it down as much as possible. I suspect it won't be long before he says money has gone missing etc, and I know that is all part and parcel of the behaviour too. I'm trying not to pre-empt what will happen.
I am aware of the changes but it is not a big deal at the moment and I don't want to make a a huge issue of it. I just think it is important for me to log it for my own records though. I find it helps to have something to look back on in the future which will help pin-point when different behaviours start to occur.
In himself hubby is happy, that's the main thing. He has been out bowling this afternoon and having a good time. The more he is out socialising and enjoying life, the less time he will have to brood or be bored and let these kind of worries/irritations surface (I think)