Stuck between a rock and a hard place. Mum's wandering is constant now. she is regularly found just walking by friends and neighbours who deliver her to my sister's or home if she has a key. This happens 4 or 5 times a day in all weathers and a risk assessment has been done by our brilliant social worker that concludes she is unsafe (we agree). The consultant has said we have a choice..... stick with the current situation and run the risk of an accident/mugging etc or put her into a home (where she will probably quickly die - he didn't say this in front of her). When mum heard this, she violently pointed into the face of the consultant and screamed ' I am NOT going into a home'. She was a psychiatric nurse and the mention of the Mental Health act set her off. The other option is direct payments to employ a babysitter to sit with her all afternoon (when she mainly wanders).
2 of my sisters and a brother went to see a local home with a fab EMI unit this week which would be perfect
My sister is bearing the brunt of this as she is at home all day so this is who is called on when mum wanders. She's not coping.
So do we lead her to total unhappiness and pursue the home, or take the chance she will not get injured/mugged etc? The latter is not good for my sister's health.
I know you can't necessarily give me the answer... but it is good just writing it down. Sigh! Thanks for listening
Karen
2 of my sisters and a brother went to see a local home with a fab EMI unit this week which would be perfect
My sister is bearing the brunt of this as she is at home all day so this is who is called on when mum wanders. She's not coping.
So do we lead her to total unhappiness and pursue the home, or take the chance she will not get injured/mugged etc? The latter is not good for my sister's health.
I know you can't necessarily give me the answer... but it is good just writing it down. Sigh! Thanks for listening
Karen