Hallo, everybody. I found you a few weeks ago and have been reading avidly, and always felt a bit calmer and more able to deal with my husband after reading other peoples' posts.
I will try to be brief. Just over 2 years ago my husband had a hernia op which resulted in Post operative cognitive decline. He had very mild dementia but came out with full-blown and now diagnosed, Alzheimer's. He "came back" after 4 weeks' home care and we have lived a quite happy but very different life since then. He has Aricept, his MME was 28 then 26, and 5 months aago was 22. He was accepted on a clinical trial for exercise - things were as good as they could be under the circumstances, and I accepted that he was different but still my beloved husband "in there" most of the time.
5 weeks ago he had to be admitted to hospital with what I thought was a UTI but turned out to be septicaemia. He was pumped through with Domestos strength antibiotics, and was declared medically fit 2 weeks ago and sent to a rehab ward as he was very confused.
Trouble is, he got even more confused on the rehab ward and kept sleeping. An OT rang me and asked what he was like before he went in. And a Social Worker also contacted me and asked me what help he would need at home. I said I didn't know, as he may "come back" a bit after he comes home; I couldn't say until I had him here. She said that was fine, I went to hospital and said I would like him home if poss, as he seemed to be deteriorating confusion wise. I just asked if there was anything they were doing for him that I couldn't do at home. and they said "no, nothing, he is medically fit, he passed the stair test, off you go" - so to speak.
But since he has been home he is going further and further backwards. I took him to the GP on Weds, she said he had been really, really ill and to give him a few more weeks.
I realise this and have tried to let him convalesce, but he just sleeps and sleeps and sleeps. I do not exagerrate when I say he is asleep for 23 hours a day and when I do wake him for that (interspersed) hour, he is totally incoherent just gibberish, no words. He sees things and people that are not there. I wake him to try to get fluids in him and a bit of food, to change his pads and get him dressed and undressed for bed, but his eyes are shut and he dozes off.
I have spinal stenosis and arthritis, so can't haul him about.
I realised I needed help and rang Social Services on Friday, but I - or my husband - is now a closed case, so non urgent and non priority.
Tonight it took me two hours to wake him to get 2 teaspoons of shepherds pie and half a cup of tea into him, then I had to physically drag him upstairs one step at a time and get him undressed and into bed. I can't manage this any more and there's no improvement on the horizon.
But I seem to have shot myself in the foot by taking him home before a care plan was in place. (Oh, hindsight!!! how expensive you are!!)
Sorry this is long and boring, but I really am at my wits' end and I don't know where to turn for help.
Has anybody got a bit of advice for me?
Thanks x
I will try to be brief. Just over 2 years ago my husband had a hernia op which resulted in Post operative cognitive decline. He had very mild dementia but came out with full-blown and now diagnosed, Alzheimer's. He "came back" after 4 weeks' home care and we have lived a quite happy but very different life since then. He has Aricept, his MME was 28 then 26, and 5 months aago was 22. He was accepted on a clinical trial for exercise - things were as good as they could be under the circumstances, and I accepted that he was different but still my beloved husband "in there" most of the time.
5 weeks ago he had to be admitted to hospital with what I thought was a UTI but turned out to be septicaemia. He was pumped through with Domestos strength antibiotics, and was declared medically fit 2 weeks ago and sent to a rehab ward as he was very confused.
Trouble is, he got even more confused on the rehab ward and kept sleeping. An OT rang me and asked what he was like before he went in. And a Social Worker also contacted me and asked me what help he would need at home. I said I didn't know, as he may "come back" a bit after he comes home; I couldn't say until I had him here. She said that was fine, I went to hospital and said I would like him home if poss, as he seemed to be deteriorating confusion wise. I just asked if there was anything they were doing for him that I couldn't do at home. and they said "no, nothing, he is medically fit, he passed the stair test, off you go" - so to speak.
But since he has been home he is going further and further backwards. I took him to the GP on Weds, she said he had been really, really ill and to give him a few more weeks.
I realise this and have tried to let him convalesce, but he just sleeps and sleeps and sleeps. I do not exagerrate when I say he is asleep for 23 hours a day and when I do wake him for that (interspersed) hour, he is totally incoherent just gibberish, no words. He sees things and people that are not there. I wake him to try to get fluids in him and a bit of food, to change his pads and get him dressed and undressed for bed, but his eyes are shut and he dozes off.
I have spinal stenosis and arthritis, so can't haul him about.
I realised I needed help and rang Social Services on Friday, but I - or my husband - is now a closed case, so non urgent and non priority.
Tonight it took me two hours to wake him to get 2 teaspoons of shepherds pie and half a cup of tea into him, then I had to physically drag him upstairs one step at a time and get him undressed and into bed. I can't manage this any more and there's no improvement on the horizon.
But I seem to have shot myself in the foot by taking him home before a care plan was in place. (Oh, hindsight!!! how expensive you are!!)
Sorry this is long and boring, but I really am at my wits' end and I don't know where to turn for help.
Has anybody got a bit of advice for me?
Thanks x