My wife and I have been together for 9 years, I'm 48 and she is 51.
Throughout our life together my wife has suffered from alcolholism. As spouses of alcoholics will know, nothing you say will convince them to stop.
Finally the alcohol got the better of her about 2 months ago. She lost her memory and could hardly walk. I took her to hospital and she was diagnosed as a chronic alcoholic. This, coupled with a poor diet and lack of vitamin B, had resulted in ammonia from her liver causing the memory loss and ataxia.
Because of this memory loss I've had to take control of everything. I've replaced the alcohol with non alcohol drinks in the house and she's given up without a wimper. Success at last!
Her prognosis is fair. She has a reasonable chance of recovering her faculties to a certain extent, but how much and when is uncertain.
Right now I'm in a battle of wills with her over false memories. She thinks we're on holiday, she thinks she has a job when she doesn't. Yesterday she thought we weren't even married and that I lived down the street. The more I argue with her, the more I'm starting to doubt my own sanity.
What do I do? I don't want to grind her into submission in this 'battle of wills' but somehow she has to be aware of certain realities, for her own safety, if nothing else.
I'm a very rational person and feel that if I try and calm things down and approach it in a simple way I might have more success. If I can prove one thing to her, beyond any doubt in her mind, I'll then have something to build on. Sadly, she's as stubborn as I am.
Any thoughts would be very welcome
Throughout our life together my wife has suffered from alcolholism. As spouses of alcoholics will know, nothing you say will convince them to stop.
Finally the alcohol got the better of her about 2 months ago. She lost her memory and could hardly walk. I took her to hospital and she was diagnosed as a chronic alcoholic. This, coupled with a poor diet and lack of vitamin B, had resulted in ammonia from her liver causing the memory loss and ataxia.
Because of this memory loss I've had to take control of everything. I've replaced the alcohol with non alcohol drinks in the house and she's given up without a wimper. Success at last!
Her prognosis is fair. She has a reasonable chance of recovering her faculties to a certain extent, but how much and when is uncertain.
Right now I'm in a battle of wills with her over false memories. She thinks we're on holiday, she thinks she has a job when she doesn't. Yesterday she thought we weren't even married and that I lived down the street. The more I argue with her, the more I'm starting to doubt my own sanity.
What do I do? I don't want to grind her into submission in this 'battle of wills' but somehow she has to be aware of certain realities, for her own safety, if nothing else.
I'm a very rational person and feel that if I try and calm things down and approach it in a simple way I might have more success. If I can prove one thing to her, beyond any doubt in her mind, I'll then have something to build on. Sadly, she's as stubborn as I am.
Any thoughts would be very welcome