Hello everyone
My Mum has been at her nursing home for 5 months now and I've been very pleased with the care. When I went on Wednesday evening they wanted to have a word with me. My mother is very loud at times. She shouts, wails, screeches, cries and so on. I know this is all part of this horrible disease. Some of the relatives have complained,commented that she is upsetting the other residents, particularly at meal times. Now I can understand where they are comng from, as when Mum was in hospital she was very loud as well.. But it does hurt!
To give them their due, the staff are very concerned about my Mum's decline over the last 3/4 weeks and are seeking an urgent visit from her consultant and I trust them to sort that out. I hope to be there as well.
What concerns me is that the consultant has never over the past year been able to get her medication balanced so she has periods of calm. I think things are sorted, as things go well for a day or so, then it's back to square one.
Mum is on 6 different drugs - 2 anti psychotics, 2 mood stabilisers and 2 anti-depressants - and the consultant told me himself that he is not happy with this, as it is not good practice. I have no problem with how she is being treated by him.
To describe how she is most of the time I would say she is in torment. She is depressed, agitated, loud, anxious and most of all frightened of anyone and anything. The only time she gets any peace is when she is asleep. I think it's made worse by her sensory impairments - profoundly deaf and loss of all central vison due to macular degeneration. She deos know who I am and when we are able to have any sort of conversation who I'm talking about. But her life is dominated by this awful fear.
What I'm really asking is does anyone else have experience of this sort of behaviour and not being able to get the medication balanced?
I'm trying to be proactive to help Mum and the other residents at the home and have booked an appointment with the assistant matron this evening to see how things can be improved.
I'd be grateful for any comments about similar experiences.
Thanks
Jazzy
My Mum has been at her nursing home for 5 months now and I've been very pleased with the care. When I went on Wednesday evening they wanted to have a word with me. My mother is very loud at times. She shouts, wails, screeches, cries and so on. I know this is all part of this horrible disease. Some of the relatives have complained,commented that she is upsetting the other residents, particularly at meal times. Now I can understand where they are comng from, as when Mum was in hospital she was very loud as well.. But it does hurt!
To give them their due, the staff are very concerned about my Mum's decline over the last 3/4 weeks and are seeking an urgent visit from her consultant and I trust them to sort that out. I hope to be there as well.
What concerns me is that the consultant has never over the past year been able to get her medication balanced so she has periods of calm. I think things are sorted, as things go well for a day or so, then it's back to square one.
Mum is on 6 different drugs - 2 anti psychotics, 2 mood stabilisers and 2 anti-depressants - and the consultant told me himself that he is not happy with this, as it is not good practice. I have no problem with how she is being treated by him.
To describe how she is most of the time I would say she is in torment. She is depressed, agitated, loud, anxious and most of all frightened of anyone and anything. The only time she gets any peace is when she is asleep. I think it's made worse by her sensory impairments - profoundly deaf and loss of all central vison due to macular degeneration. She deos know who I am and when we are able to have any sort of conversation who I'm talking about. But her life is dominated by this awful fear.
What I'm really asking is does anyone else have experience of this sort of behaviour and not being able to get the medication balanced?
I'm trying to be proactive to help Mum and the other residents at the home and have booked an appointment with the assistant matron this evening to see how things can be improved.
I'd be grateful for any comments about similar experiences.
Thanks
Jazzy